i used to regularly read along and participate in the ivf threads, but haven't been on much since my son was born last year. Now I'm reaching out because I'm lost and need advice/support.
I apologize for the way this will read, I'm just going to write as thing occur to me, so it may be disjointed.
My DP and I have been living together for 9 years now. Our we are owner builders with a partially completed home. The land is in both our names, and it's a joint mortgage but offset from his account. Otherwise our finances are completely separate. We have enough in the mortgage account put a roof on, which is supposed to be happening this week.
We have a 17 month old DS together, and he has 2 teenage daughters. I'm close with them, and they adore their brother. He and his ex wife only recently signed their final divorce papers.
DP had no will. He has life insurance and super, the girls are beneficiaries of one and I am for the other, but I can't remember which goes to whom. This morning his ex asked if had a will, and warned me that she didn't think it would go as smoothly as I thought it would. This has made me quite paranoid/worried as, although we have come together well during his death, there was quite a difficult history between them. I don't think it will be smooth or easy, by the way. But Ii had hoped settling his estate wouldn't be made more difficult than necessary.
We're off to the funeral home in Alice this morning, to start the ball rolling on getting his body released and ready for transport to Darwin. I'm not doing as well as I thought I would be today, so I'll leave this for now and come back later. Please comment with any advice, or ideas. I'm completely lost.