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    Default *spin off* Not saying 'I love you'

    So the other thread got me thinking... I will only say 'I love you' if I genuinely mean it, so if someone says it to me and I don't actually love them I struggle with how to respond. Eg. MIL says it to me and I really don't love her at all, so I usually just force myself to say it back (so I don't start WW3!) but it feels awful and wrong and dishonest, or I pretend I didn't hear and change the subject :/

    How do you respond when someone you don't love says 'I love you'?

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    I'd probably just say I love you too or "aww that's sweet".

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    If someone I dont love says it, I usually just say aww thanks or lubs you too depending on the person. The lubs you too one is a common one in my circle of friends (not close friends). They know what it means.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lil miss View Post
    If someone I dont love says it, I usually just say aww thanks or lubs you too depending on the person. The lubs you too one is a common one in my circle of friends (not close friends). They know what it means.

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    Haha, that's a good one lil miss!

    Sometimes I say "love to you", as in sending some love their way, but not actually saying that I love them.
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    I just brush it off eg if it's on the phone "yeah it was great to chat."

    Or at least that's what I do with my mother anyway and still on the fence with that!

    I find it quite hard to say I love you to anyone other than my kids. Then it comes easy, they hear it all the time every day. Hubby hears it sometimes.

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    Oh thank glob I've never come up against this one. How awkward. I say I love you to each member of my little family and that's it. I have a hard enough time dealing with the kiss or cuddle hello and goodbye. Ugh

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    I just say you too back. I find it really hard to do the whole lovey dovey thing with people I don't know well. You too seems like I'm saying it and not hurting their feelings but I don't technically have to lie to the person.

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    If it were my mother inlaw or family member id just say it back as I think it wouldn't do any harm and Id worry to hurt their feelings. I don't find it deceiving like it would be if a Boyfriend said it and saying it back when you don't. When DH 1st said it to me we were only 17 I replied oh ok and changed the subject lol he was hurt

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    Oh how awkward lol. If my mother in law said it to me I'd be totally weirded out I think I'd probably just say thanks or something

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