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    Quote Originally Posted by Tommy86 View Post
    The thing is as well, she does not do house work or cook at all, I come home from work and cook every night and spend my Sunday cleaning the house every week. The one thing she does do is wash my work clothes through the week which I do appreciate. Her lack of contribution to the house work makes it harder for me feel like it's a fair relationship.
    Her sister told me she had stopped taking her pill and I asked her herself and she also told me. I wasn't happy about it at all but I wanted to be a part of my babies life so I looked past it
    Well with that being said, quit while your ahead before you get pelted on here. Youve answered your own question if you leavr make sure you have a lawyer to help you out with shared custody etc. G/luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    You seem to make a lot of notes about the sacrifices and good work that you and your father do... Is there anything good about your girlfriend? Has she made any sacrifices for your child?
    in all honesty it's hard for me to note what she has sacrificed, she didn't really have a job/career before we were together and had a lot of unpaid debt. I know now she sacrifices her time in taking care of our sonbut being the person who "wanted' the baby she doesn't in my opinion put in enough of an effort to show it. In the back of my mind it feels like I was used to get her out of her situation.

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    Can you make some time to go into centrelink with her? You are a family so you should be applying for family tax benefits at the very least.
    If you go with her and speak to someone, get all the forms filled out at least you know that'll get done & might ease the financial situation a bit

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    She is looking after your baby. Sorry but even after 4 days you really would still have no idea what it's like. And your gf has PND on top of that. Maybe that's why she's a bit slack around the house.

    There's got to be more to the story regarding the conception. Unless you provide more details surrounding the conversations involved I can't take what you've said at face value.

    Stop tooting your own horn to a bunch of strangers online and talk to your baby mumma!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tommy86 View Post
    in all honesty it's hard for me to note what she has sacrificed, she didn't really have a job/career before we were together and had a lot of unpaid debt. I know now she sacrifices her time in taking care of our sonbut being the person who "wanted' the baby she doesn't in my opinion put in enough of an effort to show it. In the back of my mind it feels like I was used to get her out of her situation.
    You really have no idea how to put yourself in someone else's she is do you. Toot toot.

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    Well as a mum that is at home, ruling out your child having medical issues or special needs that make them a lot of work, she should be cooking and cleaning. I may not work but our house is clean, my family eats cooked meals and DH would be horrified to come home to no dinner lol

    I know you have a child together and it's done now. But you list so many negative things about her. You say she's never had a job? I struggle to understand why you even dated her to begin with.

    Walk away and spend lots of quality time with your son.

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    Its seems as though you have already answered your own question and that this post was more for you to hear people tell you your doing the right thing.
    Only you, yes you can make the decision about staying or leaving, you're the one who has the live with that decision everyday.


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    I understand where you're coming from. It'd be hard to find any positives in a person if you feel like you're a walking ATM with sperm attached, no matter the situation. It's how I'd feel. I even understand why you'd stay. Truth or not, a lot of men have a negative view of the family courts and it might seem easier to stay to see your son than go through court and everything.

    But in the long term it isn't. Your son will start to pick up on your negativity, and you shouldn't stay with someone who doesn't respect you and who you have no respect for. It will negatively affect your son and any (possible) subsequent children. So I'd either book a couples counselling session in the hopes of repairing and fixing your relationship, or leave before things get too bad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    This bit has me sus. I mean how does he know this? And what dude would stay with a scrubber who fell pregnant on purpose without the other persons consent?
    I know someone who did the same thing and he stayed with her too. It's such a sad situation.

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    Dr Phil always says "no matter how flat you make a pancake there are always two sides."

    I would love to see the GF's post on BH. Could it look something like this: ?

    "I have an 8 month old and I am miserable. My BF thinks I do nothing all day.. Looking after bub is so hard.. He expects a spotless house and dinner on the table every night. He complains whenever he has to help out around the house (why shouldn't he have to help out 50-50 when he is at home?). I have PND on top of that and am just so at the end of my rope. My BF is controlling... He has accused me of falling pregnant on purpose... He has alienated my friends and family. .. He wants me to go back to work and I do want to but feel guilty as bub is just so young.. It depresses me more He tried to force me into working at his relatives pub....I said I didn't want to as the hours would not be baby friendly... He forced the issue... Bought home papers for me to sign and then called me lazy when I didn't sign them. I feel like I have no life and all I do is cry all day....What should I do?"

    I'm not saying this is the actual story. Who knows. One things for sure: OP won't know the story unless he talks to his GF!

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