Hey guys just wanted to get some unbiased opinions on my situation.
I have an 8 month old baby boy with my gf and I absolutely love him. My problem is with my gf.
We have been together for close to 2 years now. When we first got together I had no intention of having a baby and as far as I was aware neither was she. Things weren't going too well early on in the relationship and I was given the chance to move to Brisbane for a much better job so I took it. We stayed together and I had just put a deposit down for a house for us to rent up there and just as I had organised to move her belongings up she told me she was pregnant. I was shocked at first and couldn't understand how this had happened but was happy nonetheless (I later found out she had purposely stopped taking her pill so she would get pregnant)
So she decided that she wasn't going to move up anymore and if I wanted anything to do with the baby I would need to move back to Sydney. So I did.
Once she found out she was pregnant she decided to stop working completely.
Now we have our son we have moved to house near my father's house who helps with my son a lot.
I have been made permanent in my company which means I have had a drop inmy wage and being the sole provider is not the best thing.
I have asked her for a while now to get a job to help pay the bills etc (roughly $1100 a week) or at least be on centrelink to receive some kind of payment. After I am paid each week I barely have enough money to buy food for us or even be able to pay for transport to work for the next week. I am also paying off a personal loan of hers as well as my own.
She absolutely refuses to get on centrelink and is putting in no effort to get a job. My father has offered to take care of our son if we both are working during the same hours. My step mother has also offered her a job (she runs a couple of pubs) so I paid for her rsa and rcg. I had to go to my step mum's work and pick up her forms for her because she couldn't be bothered to go get them (a 7min drive from our house) then had them for over a week sitting on the coffee table and all she done was write her name on the top of the page. Now it's not like she has a busy life at home, she doesn't cook and barely cleans. Our son is formula fed and we can time his feeds and he is a great baby he sleeps all night from around 830-7am every night.
I over heard her talking to my mates gf on the weekend saying "I am in no rush to get a job at the moment I'm loving staying home, we are getting by"
I have reached my limit with her laziness and her absolutely disregard for my feelings and the lack of contribution towards our "family life" and I want to leave her but I don't want to lose my son.
What do you guys think I should do?
Sorry for the essay!