I didn't think it sounded like the child was being rude. They were being honest and sounds like they were using the social skills of a child to try to decline politely. I remember your other thread about lying and I think we are just trained to lie so much. I honestly believe it's part of the cause of so many mental health issues - not being able to be honest for fear of offending someone. (I know, a bit of a tangent from a child refusing a specific 'treat', but it's the same values etc.)
The in-laws feel uncomfortable with this idea. The result? 80% of their presents have been re-gifted or op-shopped. What a waste! In a society where waste is such an issue I feel we should be 'fussy' about gifts.
I'd prefer my child politely refused food. I had one of my year 6 students say "no thanks" to my Christmas gift (same thing for every child in the class). They weren't being rude, it was something they genuinely had no interest in, they had no siblings they could on-gift it to, so I kept it and gave it to someone else down the track. No biggie. I'd much prefer that than seeing it in the bin just because they didn't want to hurt my feelings.
eta. Come to think of it, I am very much a community-minded person but I know a lot aren't. I appreciate every little thing in life, particularly kindness. We were also raised to never reject things given out of kindness because the action of giving itself is the real gift. When it comes to kids I would think usually, a child raised by parents with those values would not dare reject a gift - we would have feared for our lives if we did! Lol - unless there's a specific reason on a particular occasion and they are polite.
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I think it so funny reading this thread and remembering all the threads where someone mil is trying to take over or out do or even just give stuff that the parents don't want. And everyone tells them not to accept them or speak up and say something.
Speaking of 'wasting things' when taking unwanted food and other items, imagine all that waste left in Target, Big W, the supermarkets of unsold Halloween stock..... Just sayin'.
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I think you can politely say 'no thank you' to anything,
you dont have to take something / eat or drink something just because someone gives it to you.
I also don't think it's rude to decline some 'broccoli' at a dinner party. I usually just make a few different things, or run the menu by my guests first so I know I'm cooking something they will like. If they tell me they don't like something well so be it, I enjoy the left overs and don't make it for them again next time they come over.
Than one day not so long ago I really thought about it.
I was thanking people for hurting me.
Not all gifts are given out of the right motive.
I have someone in my life that gives gifts as a way of controlling people.
So you know what I have learnt both how to be polite and FIRM when declining gifts.
Btw I didn't find meme funny either but that's okay my Humor is just different.
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