Warning this is really just a vent because I am beyond frustrated right now.
I have a massive exam next week. A 4th year law subject that is the hardest one I've done so far. The lecturer has set us a huge amount of research to do - we can't just study our lecture notes we need to have researched each subject heavily and effectively taught ourselves a good deal of the content. I've been snowed under with work the last few weeks which has set me behind in my study and I really need to spend this weekend studying.
Surely its reasonable to expect DH to be supportive of my need to study the weekend before an exam? I work during the week plus do everything at home - all the caring for the kids, all the housework, garden work and stay up late every night trying to get study done and all I ask is that this weekend I get time alone to study.
DH has organised for us to go visit his family this weekend - where I'll be watching the kids while he socialises with his family. His family don't understand why I'm not keen on this idea and I'm being given the guilts. They say 'just bring your study with you'. If I do that then I will get no study done because I will spend the entire time being mum and looking after the kids because that's what always happens. DH spends all his time chatting with them and I sort out the arguments, organise their food, play with the younger one who gets left out otherwise and supervise them in the pool because no one else there will do it. And DH is doing the 'its the only time I can catch up with them!'. Sorry DH but you caught up with them just a few days ago and I am asking for ONE WEEKEND! I've managed all my commitments all semester without asking him to watch the kids to give me study or work time and so all I'm asking is for this one weekend to study.
To be fair, DH has had a tough few weeks with some traumatic events that have been beyond his control. I have supported him through this and now I need him to step up. I also know that DH is well and truly sick of my study commitments after years of it. I am too. But I'm so close to the end and to all the sacrifice paying off and I need to do well in this exam.
Any one else struggle with these kinds of issues?