stay for the party if you like hun, there's no physical threat to you or dd so staying for a few more days wont be risking your lives,
Once that party is over you run, make a list now of what you need and then go, dont even give him the liberty of telling him where you are just go,
Ive been where you are and it wont matter if you become a super house wife and the house is amazing nothing will ever be good enough, he will never be wrong and everything will always be your fault,
And the longer you stay the more they knotch it up, my relationship like that started with words, nasty comments about what I did / didnt do / what I'd done wrong,
I ended it when there were holes punched in my walls and things thrown in my direction and my stuff being destroyed, if I hadnt left when I did it'd have probably gone ever higher and he'd most likely have started hitting me in the next 12 months,
it was a slow progression breaking of my spirit and it took alot of time and support for me to even find the confidence to stand on my own two feet.