I need a devils advocate. I've pretty much come to a decision but want to put it would there for independant review.
My DH and I have a very turbulent relationship. No DV involved but a lot of aggression.
I'm pretty much over it and have decided that at the next provocation I'll move to my mums for a while.
Since DD was born a year ago things have become pretty unbearable.
He resents that he goes to work everyday and 'I don't work'.
I do everything for DD, I do everything in the house and I do the accounts for his business.
Nothing is ever good enough for him and 'I don't do enough'.
Recent example, this Saturday past he had to go to work which is usual ( he avoids working on the weekend at pretty much all costs).
When he came home, he had an optometrist appointment and then got home just b4 3pm.
I was sitting on the couch feeding DD a snack waiting for the painters to turn up.
He comes in and says 'what have you done today?'
I said 'excuse me? I tidied downstairs.'
He says 'what exactly did you do?'
I said ' vacuumed the living room, kitchen, dining room, put on a load of washing, put out two loads of washing, did the dishes, unstacked the dishwasher, moped all the floors, fed and cared for your child'
His response was 'that's only half a days work! You need to pick up your act and get more stuff done in the house'
Last night, I had to take the cats to the vet, so he stayed him with DD and I took the cats.
I was out of the house from 5-7.15pm.
He texted me while I was at the vet to ask what was for dinner.
When I got home, DD had a dirty nappy, dinner hadn't been put on.
I took her up cleaned her, bathed her, put her to bed and then came down to make dinner.
At 11:30 when I had just fallen asleep DD woke up and unusually wouldn't feed back to sleep.
The third time I went down I was admittedly p1sses off and slammed the door on the way into her room.
This morning he says to me "when's your next check up with the GP? When you go can you find out if there is any new treatment for period pain because when you are on the rag you are impossible to live with and you get irritated and slam doors and it's not like I am retired and can look after DD while you take painkillers to go to sleep, you are going to have periods for another 20 yrs or so so you had better get control of them because as it stands when AF comes on I wanna just not come home for 3 days'
I think this mornings and Saturdays comments are just the straw that broke the camels back but would you put up with being spoken to like this?
Does you DH/DP do NOTHING around the house for you or your LO's but complain about what you do?
Sometimes I think it's me and maybe he is right but most of the time I think he is just a total @ss.