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    Is this the narcissistic in laws that you hate and have caused you so much grief? Why are they even looking after your DS? Hell no would I leave my DS with them and their attitude and their dog. There is no rewind button and you can't rewind a dog that attacked and killed. It happends and its tragic and all we can do to honour those kids that were killed by a family pet is learn by it. No pet should be left unsupervised ever.
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    Have you got a close friend or family member near by that could come watch your son?
    If so, just get the friend to come around and watch your son, while you go to the hospital and tell your in laws it just happened too fast, and by the time you realised the baby was on the way you and your husband just had to go to the hospital straight away. No time for your husband to drive 50mins (?!?) each way....
    Do they really expect him to leave you in labour to drop him to them? That's just.... it's not even odd, it's just stupid really. And dangerous for that matter. Your husband would be in such a rush to get back to you to make sure he didn't miss anything, or not get you to hospital in time. Silly.
    The dog thing is secondary in my opinion. I am a dog person, and whilst I'd love to say there's a chance you're over reacting, having read some of your previous posts about your in laws, I highly doubt you are.

    ETA Sorry I didn't really read the other posts properly before I posted this, I now see you've said there's no one else

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    Yeah these are those inlaws. I guess what has made me soften is MIL has been making effort with me, asking how I am, getting a gorgeous quilt made up for your baby girl and it's softened me. And i have been trusting DH when he comes from their house saying how much better their dog is now and how its not something to worry about. He is either as stupid as they are with reading dogs, or he has been trying to mislead me so them and him are happy.

    But now that i went and saw them my gut instinct is going crazy and telling me to stop this now.

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    I would be concerned about the dog too. I would be annoyed that your dh would have to leave for an almost 2 hour round trip and you would be on your own- unless he drops you at the hospital first. 2nd babies are often faster than the first so I would be pushing that point with your dh. Does ds go to daycare? Is there carer from there who could come and stay with him? What about a neighbour? I know if a friend asked me I would be honoured to help out. In fact, I have new neighbours who have a little boy and the mum is heavily pregnant. I'm going over later today to introduce myself and let them know that if they need backup assistance in the middle of the night, i'm here. I would hate any labouring mum to be feeling unsupported.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CazHazKidz View Post
    Have you got a close friend or family member near by that could come watch your son?
    If so, just get the friend to come around and watch your son, while you go to the hospital and tell your in laws it just happened too fast, and by the time you realised the baby was on the way you and your husband just had to go to the hospital straight away. No time for your husband to drive 50mins (?!?) each way....
    Do they really expect him to leave you in labour to drop him to them? That's just.... it's not even odd, it's just stupid really. And dangerous for that matter. Your husband would be in such a rush to get back to you to make sure he didn't miss anything, or not get you to hospital in time. Silly.
    The dog thing is secondary in my opinion. I am a dog person, and whilst I'd love to say there's a chance you're over reacting, having read some of your previous posts about your in laws, I highly doubt you are.

    ETA Sorry I didn't really read the other posts properly before I posted this, I now see you've said there's no one else
    My wonderful mother was supposed to be helping us during this time but sadly she is a lot worse than them and is currently punishing me by cutting me of because I stood up to her a few months ago. The reason why we even live where we do was because she bribed us with money and the false promise she will be there for us. Now she will be anxiously waiting for mme o run to her and beg for her help. And i wont. Id rather labor on my own then cave for anyone hat doesn't deserve it. UGH i hate my life right now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BbBbBh View Post
    I would be concerned about the dog too. I would be annoyed that your dh would have to leave for an almost 2 hour round trip and you would be on your own- unless he drops you at the hospital first. 2nd babies are often faster than the first so I would be pushing that point with your dh. Does ds go to daycare? Is there carer from there who could come and stay with him? What about a neighbour? I know if a friend asked me I would be honoured to help out. In fact, I have new neighbours who have a little boy and the mum is heavily pregnant. I'm going over later today to introduce myself and let them know that if they need backup assistance in the middle of the night, i'm here. I would hate any labouring mum to be feeling unsupported.
    You sound so lovely, and that's exactly what id do as well. I don't have good neighbors .... I have had to get an intervention out on one psycho that lives opposite us, and the other neighbors next to us had an aggressive pit bull that attacked DH and mauled his arm! So now they hate us for reporting them for it. I guess I am in a really bad situation with no support. Gotta stay strong though.

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    DH even told me that when i have had our DD the inlaws can bring DS down to us so they can visit the baby in hospital and be there when DS meets his sister for the first time. I instantly squashed that plan as there is no way in hell I am having anyone else there to interrupt the precious moment of my DS meeting his sister. It enrages me that DH even thinks that would be a good idea. But yet again, because it would make THEM happy thats all he is thinking about right now. I don't get why this is going on I am starting to feel like i can't trust anyone in my life.
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    I think you just really need to reach out a friend, I cant see any other solution.

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    Trust your gut.

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    If they are complaining about getting to your house, at anytime of the day. Withdraw some cash, enough for a one way cab ride to your house, and when you go into labour, tell them to catch a cab right away to your house. Then there is no need for your husband to go drop him off, and they don't have any excuse then not to come to your house. Which then should also fix the dog issue


 

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