Need advice. My 3yr old son attends child care 5 days per week, has so since 9months old. Approximately 5 months ago he began saying "****" hurts me. I thought nothing of it. About 2 months later I noticed he still mentioned it so I explored it further. I asked him who is friends were at school and he couldn't say anyone. He then said "not **** she hurts me and pushes me". I began to ask more and he got upset when talkingn about her so I dropped it.
Next day I met with the centre supervisor and asked her if she had seen anything. She said she has never seen anything but will keep an eye out and ask his teacher. Next afternoon I picked him up and I asked the teacher and she also said she has not seen anything but would keep an eye out. She then said oh but there was an incident with her today. My son had a pillow he was sitting on and she went up to him and pushed him off it. She was made to say sorry. I asked how often this kid attends n they said one day a week. I then asked my son about the kid and hey observed his response of getting upset and saying she hurts him. The teacher said she will watch. I said I am amazed that such an insignificant girl (1 day a week) has had such a significant impact on him. The trainee Ghent heard my words n asked if I was talking about this particular girl. I said yes. She said oh yes she does it all the time to my son. If he has a puzzle she will come up and push him and take it and hits him and stuff.
I requested a meeting with supervisor next day. She told me this isn't bullyinf it is age appropriate behaviour. I told her at 3 going on 4 this isn't appropriate n my son doesn't do it to others etc.
Anyway I requested a copy of all of his incident reports as he has a lot to see how many coincidently occurred on a Thursday. The centre has refused to provide me with a copy of these incident reports or to let me see them??? last Thursday another incident where supervision didn't seem to be happening and my son was crying and he had to be asked what happened. He said this girl pushed him. At home I asked him what happened n he said e was tickling another little girl n this one came up and pushed him.
Please I'm desperate for advice! My son appears to be losing confidence and cries at almost the drop of her name.
Am I allowed to have a copy of the incident reports?
Any links to legislation on this would be appreciated.