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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    To be honest if he's minding your child all weekend frequently while you go visit your not friend he certainly doesn't sound "selfish" to me. He sounds like a good grandpa whose worried about his daughter.

    I realise YOU know this guy is good. But he doesn't. You turn on the news and you have chicks being thrown off balconies by guys they are dating. He's just worried.

    I'm happy you have met this great guy and I understand not wanting to rush things by introducing him to your child. But he could still come and visit you and not meet your child, like if you were dating someone who lived in your city. And I would introduce him to your dad so he can stop worrying.

    Go give your dad a hug and say thanks for caring and allowing me to explore this relationship by looking after DS. Dad's aren't around forever you know.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    To be honest if he's minding your child all weekend frequently while you go visit your not friend he certainly doesn't sound "selfish" to me. He sounds like a good grandpa whose worried about his daughter.

    I realise YOU know this guy is good. But he doesn't. You turn on the news and you have chicks being thrown off balconies by guys they are dating. He's just worried.

    I'm happy you have met this great guy and I understand not wanting to rush things by introducing him to your child. But he could still come and visit you and not meet your child, like if you were dating someone who lived in your city. And I would introduce him to your dad so he can stop worrying.

    Go give your dad a hug and say thanks for caring and allowing me to explore this relationship by looking after DS. Dad's aren't around forever you know.
    I agree with this 100%

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    Wise Enough said it perfectly, my dad died 4 years ago when he was 54. I so wish he were still here to worry about me!

    Your dad is looking out for you annoying as it may seem He means well and probably doesn't completely understand the long distance relationship.

    Best of luck with everything!

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    My dad lives rent free, bill free, food free. All he does is take kiddo to and from school for me and if i have to work over time at work, its because a bill is usually due or we need something asap. Dad doesnt really do me any favours. I am doing him a big favour. He never takes kiddo out for just the sake of it. He doesnt go out of his way for kiddo either.

    I have looked after him and supported him for the last year without so much of a thanks from him.

    Cant think of what is my BF lived in Brisbane because he doesnt.

    All i want is to be happy and he isnt exactly making it easier. I have suffered years of abuse from my father but thats ok, i will forgive and forget everything because i want him to look after DS over a weekend.

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    I can understand you being upset, although I can understand everyone else's actions as well. Your Dad is probably just trying to protect you. He doesn't want you (or Kiddo) hurt in any way, and neither do you- hence the precautions. I'm sure we'll be fairly similar when we're older- maybe a little over-protective and not very logical in our plight to protect. Just keep doing what your doing, and ENJOY!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Myztiks#1Fan View Post
    My dad lives rent free, bill free, food free. All he does is take kiddo to and from school for me and if i have to work over time at work, its because a bill is usually due or we need something asap. Dad doesnt really do me any favours. I am doing him a big favour. He never takes kiddo out for just the sake of it. He doesnt go out of his way for kiddo either.

    I have looked after him and supported him for the last year without so much of a thanks from him.

    Cant think of what is my BF lived in Brisbane because he doesnt.

    All i want is to be happy and he isnt exactly making it easier. I have suffered years of abuse from my father but thats ok, i will forgive and forget everything because i want him to look after DS over a weekend.

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    I think you fathers past actions have proven he is selfish. You know that, and anyone who knows your back story also knows that.

    You deserve to be happy, don't feel guilty.

    As for you owing him because he looks after kiddo, not for a second!

    Enjoy your new man he sounds like a really nice guy

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    I am flying down in a few hours but dont even feel happy about it. I have $200 for them to last til Sunday night when i get home. That will pay for dinner tonight as they(dad and his gf) are taking kiddo out to dinner somewhere and there is extra for incidentals like milk, bread etc.

    Dad had another go at me telling me he wont be looking after DS at all after this weekend. Kiddo almost missed out on camping next week which i knew nothing about until he told me. I asked if he was gonna take kiddo and he said no. He is punishing kiddo even though kiddo was promised he could go.

    Have made plans for next week which kiddo will love even more.

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    Hugs xx sounds like your dad is being a jerk. You do things your way and don't let him make you feel bad. Enjoy your time away. So happy you have found someone x

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    I agree SS! Bec- your Dad sounds like he is being a jackar$e! Enjoy yourself- take some chocolate, a good book and get on that plane. Sit back and relax and wash away your Dad's bad form and have a GREAT weekend!

    I'm so very happy you have found someone as well. I love hearing of the new relationships when I'm feeling poopy and lonely. Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.

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    I have my crocheting to do but i am craving chocolate as AF decided to come late and visit me while i had plans to go away. Such a considerate thing AF is.

    I am just worried whether dad will be nice to kiddo for me. I wish i bought him down with me but coz BF has to work, he wouldnt get to spend much time with us and we have a fun weekend planned end of next month.

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