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    This Christmas we are due to spend it with my parents (last year Christmas Day was with my ILs). Anyway, dad and I made loose plans a few weeks ago about what we were doing for the day.

    This week mum tells me dad wants to spend Christmas Day with a family "uncle" who doesn't like me. So we are uninvited. My dad hasn't officially told me, mum just wanted to warn me.

    The reason dad wants to spend the day with this friend is because he will be all alone on Christmas Day and he is old (80's) and 'every Christmas might be his last'. (He's not ill or anything).

    How would you feel about this?

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    Sad. Hurt.
    I would ask if you could do dinner and him lunch etc...

    Otherwise I would just try and be the peacemaker and go and just stay away from him.

    He if choose him over you as in you can't come at all. I would do my nut. No way is that is okay.

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    Personally, I would be hurt but would do my best to keep my chin up. I would probably take my irritation out by mentioning all of the things we would be planning to do, but I have a weird relationship with my parents in that my mum doesn't include myself or my children in certain events. So just as she gives it out, I dish it right back. Wrong, I know but it is what it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post

    He if choose him over you as in you can't come at all. I would do my nut. No way is that is okay.
    I'm not invited at all.

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    Quote Originally Posted by My Beloved Ones View Post
    I'm not invited at all.
    Hugs.
    That's is not okay and I would tell them so.

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    If my dad chose an old man over me and I was uninvited I would be devastated.

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    Crushed. Well the old me who was a daddy's girl would be. Even now having a difficult relationship with him I would be very hurt (and more than a little p.issy)

    Perhaps he doesn't realize how it hurts you? He may just think it's not a big deal and needs it pointed out to him ...

    I could be wrong but from my experience when my dad is hurtful most of the time he just doesn't realize he's being that way

    Hugs and hope it works out

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    I'd be furious tbh. Uninviting someone from Christmas Day celebrations is really poor form - Especially from your parents!

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    I would be very upset!
    I would ask them if they could spend lunch with you and dinner with him, or vice versa.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hapuhope View Post
    Crushed. Well the old me who was a daddy's girl would be. Even now having a difficult relationship with him I would be very hurt (and more than a little p.issy)

    Perhaps he doesn't realize how it hurts you? He may just think it's not a big deal and needs it pointed out to him ...

    I could be wrong but from my experience when my dad is hurtful most of the time he just doesn't realize he's being that way

    Hugs and hope it works out

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    Mine too.

    Please tell them how you feel.

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