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    Quote Originally Posted by meredithgrey View Post
    Where they public or private though?
    Mine was a day before my due date (but I had GD). 2 others were private, and another c section private bc she wasn't dilated enough. (Weird reason I thought)

    I just find it concerning they aren't listening to her and she feels that they aren't. They could explain their reasons or the reason why the dating scan is considered more important & surely if she is still concerned/not happy with their answers she could pay for another ultrasound etc. And what if she's right about the date, mistakes can be made.

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    Private will induce early because the women are paying for the "choice". GD is a valid reason for early induction given the risk for bigger babies.

    A scan at this point would be fruitless in terms of working out the correct gestation. The early dating scan is the most accurate because they measure the crown rump length (CRL). The CRL is the most accurate measure of gestation. We generally don't alter dates if they're within 7 days. It's not the midwives you'd need to talk to about altering your dates anyway, it's the doctors. Try to book in to see the drs at your next appointment. They're really the only ones who can actually do anything about the situation anyway.

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    Even by your dates you still have 1 week to be 40+10, right? So there is still some time for the baby to come naturally before next week. Maybe distracting yourself from these thoughts (as best as you can) until next week might be the best thing to do

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    OP this all sounds so bloody frustrating for you!
    While I wholeheartedly agree with some previous posts that remind you that stillbirth is very rare and stress and anxiety do you no favors in encouraging labour, I also can see that having care providers that are not listening to you really is a significant problem.
    On the risk of stillbirth at term or post-term I can only strongly advise you to develop a strong relationship to bub (I'm sure you already have) and really get to know its normal movement pattern. If you notice any changes to what you consider normal movement please attend your hospital for assessment.
    On the dating thing..... At what gestation were your first 2 or three scans? While the earliest scan is generally considered the most accurate your situation is a bit unique. You had a number of early scans only a few days apart. Perhaps the earliest scan was too early and the one a few days later should be considered the most accurate. Quite frankly this is your body and your care providers should be treating your knowledge of your own body with more respect IMO.
    I personally would approach this not so much about your fear of still birth and not by lying about anything but by trying to clarify an accurate estimated due date. This hopefully will lead to an induction at a time that you are more comfortable with. I would insist that a senior staff member has a thorough discussion with you about all your scans, the timing of them and your own knowledge of conception/ovulation ect. Depending on how your hospital works you could request a meeting with the managing midwife or book an appt with the ob. At my hospital would likely have more luck voicing concerns to the clinical nurse specialist in charge (a midwife) and then she would put her thoughts to the ob who would change the date written in your file.
    Good luck and I hope that you feel the lovely feeling of contractions soon so this all can become a non-issue!!! X

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    Default me too

    My anxiety about still birth is high too and im only 30 weeks atm I cant imagine how you feel and I cant believe they arent listening to you! I went in at 40 weeks with baby #4 crying they said go home and come back when your in labour but then my friends would get induced a week early!? Some doctors are so stuck in their ways. Id cry stress and anxiety and even depression and try and move this baby along! I hope labour starts soon for you xx

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    All my friends got induced early for non medical reasons because they went private so I guess they were paying for that option. So yes very frustrating when I feel like I am completely not coping and don't feel like any midwife is listening to me.
    We went to the hosp tonight but they refused to even discuss it with me as my appointments are with the 'Tuesday team' and I have to wait to discuss it next Tuesday. I'm also annoyed that what they consider my 40wk appointment next wk is only with a midwife and not an ob or doc. I think we will just have to kick up a massive stink on tues.
    I've decided to spend the day today trying to relax, about to go for a walk then I'll have a bath with some candles when I get home.
    Of course I think a huge amount of my anxiety is pregnancy hormones but I know I am prone to that prior to pregnancy also.
    I appreciate everyone taking the time to reply, it means a lot to me.

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    Can you call the antenatal clinic and ask for an appt to see the doctors as well as the midwives? You'll need your midwife check to do your BP etc, but if you can get in to see the dr then at least you can have a discussion. If you don't get in to see the drs then I can assure you that nothing will change. Once a due date has been decided on, it really is up to the doctors to be happy to change it. They would be looking at a number of factors around their decision as well as whether it's better to assume that baby is earlier than it is or later than it is. Keep in mind that a due date is only an estimate. It's a calculated estimate, but still an estimate. They do that because there can be so many variables when it comes to conception of a baby. They take into account length of your cycle, when you ovulated etc. Try not to stress too much. Even if you do get an induction and you're all stressed out, you'll either end up with a cascade of interventions or a c/s. For your own sake, please please please try to relax. Do anything you can to take your mind off it. Do what ever you can to relax your body and increase the chance of it all happening naturally, which will be better for you AND bub.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kelbel29 View Post
    All my friends got induced early for non medical reasons because they went private so I guess they were paying for that option. So yes very frustrating when I feel like I am completely not coping and don't feel like any midwife is listening to me.
    We went to the hosp tonight but they refused to even discuss it with me as my appointments are with the 'Tuesday team' and I have to wait to discuss it next Tuesday. I'm also annoyed that what they consider my 40wk appointment next wk is only with a midwife and not an ob or doc. I think we will just have to kick up a massive stink on tues.
    I've decided to spend the day today trying to relax, about to go for a walk then I'll have a bath with some candles when I get home.
    Of course I think a huge amount of my anxiety is pregnancy hormones but I know I am prone to that prior to pregnancy also.
    I appreciate everyone taking the time to reply, it means a lot to me.
    I can't believe they won't even talk to you at all. I would be livid. Is there a number that you can call to complain?

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    I was induced at 40w3d with my first due to low fluid levels. With my second I went to 41w4d where I was scheduled to be induced (I was over being pregnant with a toddler to run after). My bub was fine. I was monitored each week from 39w6d to make sure bub was healthy, moving and fluid levels ok just to be safe.

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    I wonder if I turn up in emergency would they do a s&s?


 
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