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    I'll be getting implants soon... for ME; not for dh, not for you and not because society may see bigger breasts as better.

    I'll tell my children that I think they're perfect the way they are, but their opinion is more important than mine; if they feel that changing their physical appearance in some way, whether that be a tattoo or nose reconstruction, will increase their positivity about themselves, there will be no judgement from me.

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    I got my nose done. and I did it for me. after being teased about it my whole life it was the best thing I did for myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    I am going to disagree with you.
    There are medical reasons for going from a to c or whatever. Why is only one acceptable. Mental heath issues are just as valid.

    I get really p1ssed off with the idea that mental health reasons are dismissed like they are just a want.

    Feeling like your a freak. Being treated like freak and wanting it fixed is justified as having freaking back pain. People do commit suicide over this issue.
    Who are we to judge who is worthy and who isn't.
    Don't you think then, that we should be targeting societies treatment of women? Instead of us all going, "I'm feel like a freak so I am going to get major surgery to fit in with the social norm", when we could be going "society needs to change the way we view and treat women".

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    Supply creates demand. If no one had invented breast implants and they weren't even an option, we would all be accepting of our boobs and leave the perkiness to the youngens (the way our grandmas must have done).

    But since anyone can get them at any age these days, and do, it creates unsettled feelings and dissatisfaction for the women on the whole, knowing we could all look "better" but don't.

    Today's nursing homes must be the last place in first world countries where women feel ok about themselves.

    It would be cool to see a bunch of normal women posing topless in a magazine spread to show people it's ok to not look 20 anymore.

    Would be cool if we could master self-love.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    Don't you think then, that we should be targeting societies treatment of women? Instead of us all going, "I'm feel like a freak so I am going to get major surgery to fit in with the social norm", when we could be going "society needs to change the way we view and treat women".
    Yes I do.
    But in the mean time let's not treat people that do have a medical need for surgery like they are just bimbos.
    I am so over this idea that mental health reason are silly or that they just need to see themselves as perfect.

    It's like telling a depressed person they just need to smile.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crankyoldcow View Post
    I think I understand what you are saying.

    I'm mainly referring to the pressure placed on girls in particular to look a certain way and the profound effect it can have on their self esteem. From teasing at school, to heavily photoshopped pictures in magazines and everything in between.

    This pressure can be the cause of low self esteem and mental health issues. I don't think that mental health issues are an invalid reason for cosmetic surgery - in my post I was objecting to societies expectations of beauty and the pressure to look a certain way in the first place which in my mind is a cause of mental health issues.
    I agree with you but I think it goes beyond that too. That there is times that it is just internal view. You look around and see every other women has this and I don't. I don't feel like a women.

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    Who said that? I said in my original post I can pass judgement over the idea and not the individual? I don't blame anyone for getting surgery - the way we are condition to hate the way we look is masterful and massive and it isn't just going to change either, it might never change (now that is depressing!). I can totally understand why people do it.

    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    Yes I do.
    But in the mean time let's not treat people that do have a medical need for surgery like they are just bimbos.
    I am so over this idea that mental health reason are silly or that they just need to see themselves as perfect.

    It's like telling a depressed person they just need to smile.

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    Don't you think then, that we should be targeting societies treatment of women? Instead of us all going, "I'm feel like a freak so I am going to get major surgery to fit in with the social norm", when we could be going "society needs to change the way we view and treat women".
    Yep, the one thing that springs to mind is the recent increase in labiaplasty procedures in Australia because women believe they aren't normal (and men are starting to tell women they don't look normal, compared to what they've seen in movies/magazines).

    I think one of the things that needs to change are the classification rules surrounding p.orn magazines.

    Previously hidden behind a bush of hair, labia are now under close scrutiny. The type typically featured in pornography are known as the "Barbie" or "clamshell" variety, where everything is neatly tucked away.

    And just to complicate the matter, Australian censorship and print publication guidelines dictate that the inner labia must not protrude beyond the outer labia.

    Houston, we have a problem. Many women are not designed this way and have started to question whether they are "normal
    ".

    http://www.dailylife.com.au/health-a...115-2xldg.html
    Dr Simonis said a consultation with a mother and her 17-year-old daughter a year ago prompted her to approach the RCGP to put together a tool kit for doctors.

    "I had a teenaged girl present with her mother requesting referral to a plastic surgeon following a Brazilian wax, and the statement the mother made was that the teenaged girl's vagina had prolapsed," she said.

    The girl was completely normal, but Dr Simonis said there was widespread ignorance about what a normal vulva looked like.

    http://www.abc.net.au/news/2014-10-1...octors/5804316

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    Quote Originally Posted by beebs View Post
    Who said that? I said in my original post I can pass judgement over the idea and not the individual? I don't blame anyone for getting surgery - the way we are condition to hate the way we look is masterful and massive and it isn't just going to change either, it might never change (now that is depressing!). I can totally understand why people do it.
    I didn't mean you as beebs said that but lots of people have given off that impression.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    I agree with you but I think it goes beyond that too. That there is times that it is just internal view. You look around and see every other women has this and I don't. I don't feel like a women.

    I have a wonderful friend, she is seriously one in a million in terms of personality and loveliness. She was always so down on the way she looked, to the point where she was mentally unwell over it. She started surgery, first nose job, then implants, lipo, lips etc, and she is still not happy. She doesn't even look like the same person (she looks like someone from bay watch - that fake kind of look and she was so attractive to start with). And she is still not happy. This is why this kind of thing worries me, because sometimes you can't fix your unhappiness with surgery. You hear all the "it was the best thing I ever did" but for every one of those, there are the ones who no matter what they do it won't make them happy. It is so sad she couldn't see how wonderful she was just as she was, even when everyone else could.

    Do it if you think it will make you happy, but that doesn't mean you and I and we all can't questions why we do/want to do these things.

    I was so determines to get a nose job - I HATE my nose, I got teased about it all the time, I would be so much prettier with a nice nose. I fantasised about it for years, but when I saw my lovely friend go through all that and still not be happy. I kinda realised something, and that is - yup - I would look way cool with a nicer nose - but this nose is me, I was born with it. It ain't pretty but it is mine ya know? I know that doesn't really make sense. It's taken me almost 25 years to get to this point (I started wanting a nose job as a teen).

    Anyway - I totally understand why people have surgery - but I do think there are much bigger issues at play and that it is good to questions/discuss etc.

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