Okay I am passionate about this because dd2 is having cosmetic surgery soon. We are just waiting on this growth spurt to finish and than we will start the process. While it's not her b00bs. It is a big op and part is medical and part is for purely cosmetic reasons.
I know what it is like to be treated as a freak and I would never want that for my worst enemy. So the thought of it happening to my dd kills me. I want to stop it before it starts.
Think of me what you want. I know a lot people will think I am terrible to put my dd through this at as a early teen. I don't care. I know what I am doing is right for her.
Why can't people also see that some women just want to do it for THEM. Not because of what society has told them is normal/beautiful etc.
I wear makeup for me, I get tattooed for me, I colour my hair for me... Why should boobs be any different? Not everything is because of "society".
After all my ranting and raving about how we should all just be the way we are. My DS2 had some non medical cosmetic surgery when he was a baby (just a local in out type thing) because he was born with a growth and I couldn't stand the thought of him being singled out and picked on over it. Sigh - society sucks!
I get tattoos = for me
I have piercings = for me
I bleach and colour up my hair = for me
I wear makeup = for me
I want new boobs = for me
I want new lips = for me
At no stage have any of the lemmings within society made me feel like I "need to change" or that something is wrong with me I like feeling good, if that means continuing with the above or adding to it then awesome. None of the above means I hate myself or unhappy nor will it teach my girls anything negative
I don't always buy the "I do it for me" argument.
Why do you want to do it for you? Because you don't want to live with real or perceived social pressures of being less than perfect?
There has to be a line in the sand.. The "I want to do it for me" argument can't be used for everything. At some point we've got to say it doesn't matter, the message it's sending is not cool... What would you do if your young daughter wanted to look like those kids in the child beauty pageants... Fake teeth, spray tan, hair extensions, false eyelashes, caked on make up, boob tube tops .... And used the "I want to do it to make myself feel better" line? You would call BS because with a child it is sooooooo obvious that they are like sponges taking in the inappropriate expectations of others. It's not so obvious with adults, but it should be.
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