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    The only issue I have here is .... I have no idea where to go from here... I have family members that I ask but other than that I'm almost at a loss! I am just do on in the deep end with no life raft.... So we just had the dating talk and I said I think it's best to just wait till your a lot older since a lot people of people may not understand where she is coming from and we will take this as it comes not that I would be encouraging it if it was any different.... To think I have never hidden puberty/body image and she came to me yesterday asking about a "boner" LOL maybe i scared her ! Hahahahaha jokes

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    Sounds like you are doing an awesome job with her to have such a trusting relationship

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    I wouldn't worry about "where to go from here" as you say. I'd Just go with the flow from here on in, stay as supportive as you are now and continue to let her be herself and find her way.
    What a beautiful mother/daughter relationship you guys have


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    Good job mumma. I agree you probably don't need to do anything. Just keep the lines of communication open.

    I'm not sure if you're in Victoria but the Safe Schools Coalition could be good for advice and resources.

    http://safeschoolscoalitionvictoria.org.au

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    Good on you. I agree with pp: go with the flow.. I also wouldn't be going around telling people or anything just yet. Not because it's shameful but telling people may pigeon hole your daughter and/or make her feel uncomfortable down the track.

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    I dream that my daughter could tell me something like that! I would love love love of we have a relationship like that. And the other thing, I think its awesome that you have raised a child who can know her own mind like that at age 11. She must have a lot of self awareness and inner strength, plus trust in you, to come out with something so personal!

    I don't have any experience but all I can say is as long as she has you on her side she can face anything.

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    That's fantastic!!! My little sister rang me in a Tis a few months ago worried what people in the family would be mad if she was "bi" luckily our family is fantastic I told her she can love whoever she loves boy girl or book and we'd be happy and love her


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    Thats excellent!!

    My sil (17) recently came out to me. We were just casually talking and she mentioned being "married" to a girl on fb, testing the waters I think. We had a good laugh and kept chatting, no big deal (I wasnt sure if she was trying to tell me she was in a relationship with a girl or if she was mucking around as 17 years old do). Then she slowly started telling me more about this girl and I quickly realised it was a serious relationship. It was an honour she came out to me, she is a very private person and I know how much of a big deal it was for her. I didnt make a big deal about the fact she had a girlfriend- to me its no different to her having a relationship with a boy so why treat it different. Now she has found the confidence to come out to everyone and im so very very proud of her for that.

    My dd1 (who is 7) has obviously heard some of our conversations so same sex relationships are as normal to her as hetero relationships, the only thing she cant understand is why people of the same sex cant get married. "But mum, they love each other like you and dad love each other, what's the big deal".... proud mummy moment right there.

    I can only hope that my daughters are as comfortable being open with me as they continue to grow older.

    Well done mumma!

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    Just go with the flow. She knows you're there for her .

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    What a lucky girl to have a mother like you. And what a lucky mummy you are to have such a brave, happy little girl.


 

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