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    Default Newbie. Fifo Husband, Semi-irregular Cycle.... Ahhhhh!!

    Hi All,
    Still finding my way around what looks like a very supportive site! Hope I can find some comfort with our current situation!

    I'm 34, Married for 7 months, trying to conceive for 5 months. Husband works fly in, fly out on a 4/1 roster, so only home for 1 week out of every 5 weeks. Visiting him is possible, but not easy (Vic to NT).

    My cycle is a little irregular - ranging from 28-32 days and can't seem to get on track with ovulation.

    I don't want this to overtake my life, but geez it can be draining! Just the timing of everything! I guess I am looking for people if similar situations and how you manage(d).


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    Hi! Also a newbie and a FIFO wife. My DH has a slightly better roster commuting back and forth qld to wa, somewhere in the realm of 9/5. We have been ttc since June when I went off the pill- and I've yet to see AF. I'm up to cd 116 on my very first cycle. And I feel your pain - I'm very anxious to try and get a regular cycle, given that "timing" with DH may be tricky.

    Most of our FIFO friends got pregnant with a combination of luck and patience. I also have one friend whose partner negotiated to change swings at work to better line up with her cycle. I also know of one lovely lady who is currently doing clomid to try and bring ovulation into a more reliable pattern, and if that isn't cutting it is planning to look at IUI. My SIL is the most fertile person I know (the type who accidentally falls pregnant if someone looks at her), and it still took her and her husband 5 months to conceive their latest as he had started FIFO.

    It's very frustrating. Sending you lots of luck and love and hoping things line up for you soon

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    I just had to google half your abbreviations! Have to get my head around the baby making lingo! Thanks for replying though. Its nice to talk to people in a similar situation. Clomid and IUI are both options begin thrown around atm. If we weren't fifo, I would prob persist a little longer, but fifo just adds that extra difficult factor in. I wish you the very best of luck also and hope that AF visits soon!

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    It's so hard to know when to seek fertility help, and when to just give it a little longer isn't it!! I think the best thing is just to know all your options - you can still decide to just wait and see, but also know what is available to you. Good luck!! Is there any option for your partner to not do FIFO for awhile? Or change to a better roster?

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    He only started fifo 10 months ago and considering it took over a year of applying we don't really want to stop. In saying that, we do live swing-to-swing. When either of us have had enough, he'll quit! He could change his roster by a week or so, but it would still be 4/1 and because its me that not 'regular', there's not point atm. I follow a couple of Facebook Wives of FIFO groups that offer lots of support in all sorts of areas, so thats been helpful too! What are you options going forward - what steps have you taken to try for a regular cycle?

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    Ah, the good old "we will stop when it stops working", haha. We've been saying that for 7 years now, it's hard to say no to the $$ once you get used to it!! The goal posts keep changing - currently it's "we will stop once the mortgage is nearly paid off", which is hopefully end of next year. I'm hoping a baby will be the motivation we need to stop the FIFO lifestyle!

    Currently I've tried a bunch of things. I'm
    Monitoring BBT to be a bit more aware of my cycle. I tried soy isoflavones, which are meant to stimulate ovulation. I got a "fake peak" in BBT and cervical mucous, but didn't ovulate. I've increased full fat dairy in my diet and non meat protein, which is meant to help promote fertility. I started acupuncture and herbs 3.5 weeks ago, and that seems to have had the most effect. On my temps it looks like I ovulated after my third acupuncture session, so I am now about 7 days past ovulation. Fingers crossed I get my first post pill period, or a positive pregnancy test, next week. I saw my gp last week and she ordered a few blood tests, haven't got results yet. She agreed over four months without a period post pill was unusual, and if things haven't normalized she is referring me to a fertility specialist for clomid in the new year.

    I'm a bit of a "researcher" - I work in the health field and have been pouring over articles and studies to try and regulate. So far it's been time and acupuncture/Chinese herbal medicine that actually seems to have done something. I was skeptical about acupunture - but, I can't seem to deny the correlation between starting it and starting to get signs of a "cycle"

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    Are you temping or anything like that? It's a good way to track when you ovulate, which won't necessarily change when you partner is home, but will give you an idea of whether you didn't fall pregnant secondary to poor timing or other factors- which may be useful if seeking fertility help

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    Wow, reading the steps you have taken and how aware you are makes me feel quite uneducated! Honestly, until we started trying (only 5mths), not a lot of thought had gone in to pregnancy/kids! We knew we would one day, but hadn't it has been a very casual approach so far. It's only now, after a few months, that I've started thinking about taking some other steps to try and help us along! And am willing to try anything - Maca and Vitex are both natural herbal tablets I have read about to help with ovulation and fertility. Have you researched them?? I am yet to actually start anything and am visiting GP tomorrow, for a chat!

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    Yeah, I've heard some good results. The best results that I had heard anecdotally were for acupuncture, so I've given that a go (and she has given me some herby stuff) first. We started relaxed, but I started to get a bit worried when my cycle didn't return and tried to educate myself. This site has heaps of info - stalking some of the conception threads is very helpful!


 

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