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    Default Getting kicked out of shops

    I was at the shops today.. local one just with a few specialty stores and the 2 major grocery stores in it.

    There was a child around 4yrs old having a major tantrum inside.. I jist felt for the poor mum. This went on for about 10mins and then a security guard turned up and told them to leave!!
    I was shocked.. can they do this? I felt so bad for the mum. A lot of people were looking over but yeh it was loud but it was just a child tantrum.

    Told my dad and he said they have the right to do that as its public property. Gee I hope my son doesnt throw one while we are there next!

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    Sounds a bit harsh to me. Yes, it was probably inconvenient for other shoppers and a bit annoying but like you said, it was only a child's tantrum. A bit of overkill IMO.

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    Makes me utterly terrified of taking my kids to the shops. DS2 had a meltdown in target today. I would have burst into tears if someone asked me to leave.

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    I really hope there's more to that story that we don't know.

    Yes, it's private property, and they can ask someone to leave... but what a horrible thing to do if it was purely due to a child having a tantrum.

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    10 minutes is a hell of a long time though for a kid to be stuck in a shop mid tantrum. I've luckily only experienced one or two major tantrums while shopping and honestly after 5 minutes I packed it in and went home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    10 minutes is a hell of a long time though for a kid to be stuck in a shop mid tantrum. I've luckily only experienced one or two major tantrums while shopping and honestly after 5 minutes I packed it in and went home.
    Totally different issue I know as my son has sensory issues and frequent meltdowns but 5 minutes is a quick meltdown for us lol. If I packed up and went home every time he did it, he'd never learn how to cope with it.

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    If a child has a disability it is illegal to ask them to leave on the basis of their disability - and this would include behaviours resulting from their disability.

    The fact a shopping centre is "private property" is irrelevant. It's in the Disability Discrimination act.

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    If there's no more to the back story than a child having a tantrum asking the parents to leave is very harsh and unreasonable. Most people cut parents some slack with tamtruming kids don't they?! So surely it doesn't annoy people to the extent they need removing from the premises after all it's only bloody shopping and not a funeral or such?!

    However if the child does in fact have sensory or other developmental issues they should be removed from the premises by the parents, if it appears they aren't coping with what's happening to/around them, as if the child is tantruming it could well be because they are over-stimulated and need to be taken somewhere calming to re-set.

    Bit of a lose/lose situation that one!

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    Also depend on the size of the shop. A 10 minute tantrum in a target or kmart probably would go unnoticed but in a very small business would be extremely awkward. Sound like it as a big shop if there was a security guard though.

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    My kids have special needs and one of them has epic meltdowns. When he has reached the point of no return We take him to a quiet safe place so he can regulate himself without having to battle against all of the sensory input thats extremely overwhelming to him. This is usually back to the car until he calms. I leave my groceries at the front desk and tell them i'll return in 5-10 etc

    If security asked me to leave, id feel really embarrassed but at the same time i honestly wouldn't let it go that far. I can see both sides i guess


 

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