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  1. #1
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    Default Help with toilet training

    My DD is 2.9 years and I've been attempting to train her for the past three weeks with nil sucess on the potty or toilet. She's very bright and understands the concept but when she gets near the toilet, she completely freaks out. As far as the potty goes, she'll sit on it but never goes. She always apologies when she has a accident in undies and tells me she will use the toilet tomorrow or soon... but that doesn't happen. I've tried lolly/ chocolate/sticker rewards but she refuses the reward. She has toilet time book which she loves to read daily but when I ask her about trying like the big girl in the book, she refuses or says she will go tomorrow. I'm pulling my hair out... Any advice would be appreciated. TIA

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  2. #2
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    To be honest, it sounds like she just isn't ready. And if she isn't, there is nothing you can do to force her and it will become a power struggle.

    My advice? Leave it for a month and see if she is interested then.

    Heaps of kids aren't toilet trained until 3 or later.

    Good luck!

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    I would leave it for a bit. Then - let her own it. Take her undie shopping for some that she likes and buy some treats for her toilet time that she chooses (within reason- give her a choice) just like you did before. Take her to the toilet every 1.5 hours and get her to have a sit as you're running the bath. If you want to take the stress out of it, let her wear pull ups for the first few weeks. Some kids don't connect the feeling with the action straight away and need a chance to work it out. At first give a treat just for sitting on the potty/toilet, then naturally (when she is ready) she will start to go to the toilet then and receive a treat for that. Just make the treat something small like a smartie/jelly baby or it will be sugar overload! Eventually in our house it ends up being a piece of cadbury choc at the end of the day and that's it until it too is weaned out. If they are ready it will all be over and done with in a few weeks at the most. We also got DD a portable potette plus for the car for when we are out. All the best x.

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    I found this author interesting... she has heaps of potty training tips on her blog. She also has a cheap e-book which I bought after reading her blog and I'd say about 1/3 of what's in the book is also on her blog. Worth a read anyway:


    The link goes to page 10 of her blog but you can page forwards and backwards to other posts.

    And edited to add some things that helped us that you could try (besides the blog above) Go to the toilet with her, so you sit on the loo and she on the potty. Every time. Every time you go she goes. Our house rule is that we all go pee when we wake up, before we go out, and before bed.
    Also, if I knew he had to pee because he hadn't peed for say two hours, I would keep putting him back on the potty. Sit and try again.
    Last edited by debsch; 17-10-2014 at 21:04.

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