Sorry for the essay!
Prior to getting married DH and i discussed our child raising goals and we both agreed that we would prefer I stayed home with any babies rather than putting them into CC and going back to work.
Fast forward to when we got our BFP. We were all geared up for me to just resign from work after mat leave when we learned of a sweet deal in regards to returning to work to a 'full time position' on reduced hours. If i was to get UTD and go on ML again within 1 yr of RTW, that ML would be paid at F/T rates.
We thought I might as well do that. So the plan was to RTW after twelve months two two days a week. My mum would take her one day a week and she would go to CC one day.
When the time came I wasn't ready to put DD into care and we discussed it again and the decision was left in my hands as to what I wanted to do. DH was not (is not) keen to put DD into care at all.
I extended my (unpaid) ML another six months.
Now one month later DH is at me to RTW now as he wants to buy another property up the coast ( where we will eventually move). We can't afford two mortgages on his salary alone as the prices where we want to move to have gone through the roof.
I'm losing my sh1t.
One month ago he was happy for me to extend, now he wants me to redo it all and RTW 3 days a week.
He still doesn't want DD in CC and wants me to try and negotiate with someone (SIL or other PT staff at my work) to look after the baby.
I'm fuming but he thinks I'm being obstructive and selfish and ruining the chances for our future.....