I was in a similar situation last year. Invited to a birthday party for an extended family's child in a park and it was BYO food and drink.
I didn't go. It was a 2+ hour drive each way for us, and I think its rude to.expect a gift be given to their child, but they couldn't even supply nibbles? It was too one sided for me.
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