I would suck it up and go. It would be rude to not go to your nephews birthday because of your kids nap. Can you get there early and take your dd for a walk/nap in the pram?
Family is important. It hurt that my dad didn't bother turning up to my DDs first bday. I would just suck it up and go especially if she's changed the date for you. She obviously really wants you there.
To be honest I would have just gone - its about your nephew and truly most of us have friends that someone doesn't like, we probably have family our other halves don't like but I'd be horrified if I was told it was their definition of hell - it's a few hours once a year.
But then again we do friends and family at a combined gathering, the more the merrier and my parents still love catching up with our friends
The question is: How would you feel if it is was your DD's birthday and your SIL did exactly the same thing to you? If she said that she wasn't going to her niece's birthday because it was her definition of hell?
Oops just read the update... If I was your SIL I would have told your hubby to get stuffed. How rude to expect them to go to a separate little party for their son just because you can't be bothered to put up with an hour or two of people you don't like. It's like your hubby doesn't put that much importance on his nephew so why should they bend over for you.
If I was your hubby I would apologise and ask to go to the original gathering (if you are still welcome).
Your SIL has a right to be miffed. I would be hurt if people couldn't suck it up to celebrate my DDs birthday. They are lame reasons for not going.
I honestly think your DH was out of line and if someone said that to me I would be done with them. Blow me off, I dont care, but my kid? Nup, sorry I think your SIL has every right to be p!ssed.
I would suck it up and go. Your nephews birthday isnt about you. Its about him.
Oh and our parties always involve friends and family combined. In fact our friends are part of our family, they all get along really well.
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What are you teaching your kids by acting like that?
You should pack some lunch, go and make an effort to mingle for the sake of your nephew and SIL.
Id say your DH has just made it into more than it needed to be by his message to SIL who is likely very upset now - sure you don't need to like her friends but to say attending a party with them is so awful would be upsetting.
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