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    Default Drop & run at birthday parties - wdyt?

    Dd7 had her birthday party on Sunday. We were running late so we didn't get there until 5 mins before it was due to start, only to be met by two of the guests, both just on the 7yo mark, hanging out the door to greet us. Both of them had been dropped off, one by her Dad, one by her aunt. The only other people at the venue were two staff members. I know both the dad and the aunt went straight back to their homes. And the aunt didn't turn up at the party's end until I called the child's mother (whose number I only had by coincidence) to see who was coming to pick her up. So we had to hang around for an hour until the aunt showed up, the venue staff were waiting to lock up and when she finally showed up she basically didn't appear to give a stuff 0.0.

    I'm a bit shocked tbh, firstly I'd never drop my child off with complete strangers, if I wanted to drop and run I'd make sure the party hosts were there and if not I'd wait until they arrived. And I'd make sure I knew what time pickup was. And if I kept 4 adults waiting for an hour I'd at least apologise. Am I living under a rock here?

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    My DD (also 7) has been to a few parties where this was done. I shocked that parents/carers would do it!!
    I've stayed at all bar one that she's been to, where I spoke to the mum and was shopping with my DS in the same shopping precinct as the play café the party was at, for its duration.
    I would never leave my kids alone anywhere!! Far out!

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    My youngest is 7 and yep I drop and run, but only when I know the parent is there! I walk them to the door, say hi to the parent then leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    My youngest is 7 and yep I drop and run, but only when I know the parent is there! I walk them to the door, say hi to the parent then leave.
    This! I walk my dd in, say hello to the parent and birthday girl/boy, and leave. Same with picking her up- I try to get there 10-15 mins before party is due to end, walk in, have a quick chat to the parent to see how it went and say thank you for having dd, dd says her thank you and goodbye and we leave.

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    Im having a pool party at the local pool for my 6 yr old soon and one of the mothers of the kids invited told me today "yay I can drop her and leave"... I didnt quite know what to say.. I have my own few kids to look after and 2 are quite small.. the pool is a busy one and I would have thought a parent would be there to watch their own child... its at a largish pool what if something happens?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    Im having a pool party at the local pool for my 6 yr old soon and one of the mothers told me today "yay I can drop her and leave"... I didnt quite know what to say.. I have my own few kids to look after and 2 are quite small.. the pool is a busy one and I would have thought a parent would be there to watch their own child... its a pool what if something happens?
    It can be a bit of a mine field I think. Some parents, especially when they don't know the party child's parents well, feel weird hanging around like it's seen as helicopter-ish and untrusting of the family.

    I normally for the 5/6/7 yo parties write on the bottom of invites parents are welcome to attend if they want, or drop and run. For your party I would want to be supervising my child... but again parents may have felt they would be seen as weird for showing up and staying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    Im having a pool party at the local pool for my 6 yr old soon and one of the mothers of the kids invited told me today "yay I can drop her and leave"... I didnt quite know what to say.. I have my own few kids to look after and 2 are quite small.. the pool is a busy one and I would have thought a parent would be there to watch their own child... its at a largish pool what if something happens?
    Ah see pool party would be different for me- I would stay so I could supervise my child (if they were older it might be different). If I couldn't do that then unfortunately I probably wouldnt let dd go. The parent hosting would have enough on their platr without having to worry about supervising other children in the water. Actually this situation occurred over the holidays for us. Dd1's best friend invited her to the inflatable water park that was here. I had read lots of parents warning how shallow the water is (and the slides are huge), and lots of broken legs and injured backs. I know how excitable dd1 can be and whilr I know she would have behaved, I also know she probably would have gotten carried away and not paid attention to the safety warnings. I wasnt able to go due to other commitments and I just didnt feel comfortable not being able to be there to supervise her myself. This is my daughter who broke her collarbone doing a cartwheel at school last year. I trust the other mum who was taking them and I know she would have been watching the girls like a hawk but I didn't feel comfortable not being there in the event something did happen- I didnt want to put that pressure on the mum either. Obviously dd1 was disappointed but I explained why and she understood. Just like I wouldnt feel comfortable supervising dd1 and a friend on my own in case something happened to the friend.

    Maybe you could write on the invite that it is preferable if the parents stayed to supervise their children but if they cant for whatever reason, to let you know asap so you cam organise a buddy system type tying for those whose parents arent attending?

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    My DD1 is 7 and i drop her at parties but i wouldnt leave her anywhere without first saying hello to the parents & checking it was ok to leave her plus giving them my contact details just in case.

    The parents at the OP's party seem very lax

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    I drop and go...but I always say hello to the parent first and leave them my mobile number.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Minchi View Post
    Im having a pool party at the local pool for my 6 yr old soon and one of the mothers of the kids invited told me today "yay I can drop her and leave"... I didnt quite know what to say.. I have my own few kids to look after and 2 are quite small.. the pool is a busy one and I would have thought a parent would be there to watch their own child... its at a largish pool what if something happens?
    At our local pool it's actually pool policy that at parties, parents must stay to supervise their own children under the age of ten - so most people just write that at the bottom of the invitation.


 

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