I want to check if any other army wives are concerned with the discipline methods of their DH. I think my DH's training in the military has left him with unrealistic expectations of our son, talks to him like he barks orders and is physically intimidating, although not abusive or hitting. He reacts like he is in war and sometimes snaps. Most of the time he is OK but I feel it is more frequent lately.
The other day, after he over reacted, my son was shaking for about 20 minutes and I was actually quite shocked as well.
I have approached my DH to say, that I understand that it is tough and I am not the perfect parent either but there has to be some other reaction than what he is doing. He basically told me to shut up. If he said, 'Yes I know that was wrong and I feel bad', that would be acceptable but I thinks he thinks he is not doing anything wrong. I know he would never intentionally hurt anyone but if he uses too much force, I think he could really hurt our DS.
I just want it to stop and not escalate any further.
What would you do?