I don't really understand why one situation is annoying and not the other?
FWIW I def think one is way ahead by working, keeping their qualifications up to date and feeding into their super. So I'd never be jealous of a SAHM.
My kids SM happily tells me that I should get a job and they shouldnt pay CS on weekends and school holidays that my 3 kids are there.
What she doesnt know is I quit my highish paying job because my ex nastily told me I should be at home with his kids. Im a bad mother for working and not spending time with them. Until recently ive always (since he said that) worked part time. Putting my income under the threshold therefore not coming into play for CS assessment.
Out of CS I pay all medical, private schooling (as per our arrangement when together) all after school activities. Buy the kids clothes and shoes that meet their dads expensive standards. They also live in a bigger house so they all have their own room again as per his demands.
I think that angry SM who resent CS amounts arent always told the full story. They are left with no one else to blame but the bio mum.
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Is it still fair for the dad to prop her up financially while she chooses to continue a life earning nothing?
I would change it that the bio father pay 50% of the average child expenses per year rather than what the system thinks they can afford. I'm pretty sure my 5 year old costs moe than $100 a month to raise! While I fork out for rent, food, bills, childcare, clothing etc. it's insulting that right now I can't afford to clothe my son & I ask for some money to help. It his clothes. He dare asks for a receipt so he can pay "half". Sorry I didn't know our child was an item to be bought
Can someone clear some things up for me.
Do CSA factor in the receiving parent's income when working out how much the other parent has to pay? I didn't think they did, that it's purely based on the paying parent's income.
If the receiving parent is receiving SPP, don't they factor in the amount of CS they're supposed to receive, thus deducting their SPP payments to reflect that? So it would be highly unlikely that they're living the high life.
Dad would have probably advanced in his career while he had the whole home and family logistic assured by mum.
If he is earning so well while having kids it's also because he was able to put the long and hard hours at work because someone else was caring for the kids.
What happened to mums career while she work at home growing the kids and supporting dads career?
Well hers crash and burn. She has been out of work for years. Skills are not up to date. So yes she needs and deserve some money from dad.
That's why I would never ever choose to have a parent stay at home. I don't want to be or to put my DH in this situation. Recipe for disaster if the couple splits.
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