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    Quote Originally Posted by ExcuseMyFrench View Post
    It should be paid by centerlink for those parents that don't honour CS.

    Then centerlink can get its money back from the defaulting parent. When a government agency wants their money back they find a way.
    I'm a big believer in this. Any non-private arrangement should be paid by the govt, then the govt reimbursed by the payer, with the payer incurring a debt with non-payment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LotusMum View Post
    It should all be collected by csa and no other option. I know so many women who have been bullied into private arrangements which suit the payer nore than the payee, also when the reassessment comes, the payer should be forced to pay their bill, not just go meh she won't make me pay.
    I disagree, I know many people who have harmonious parenting arrangements with private agreements.

    I'm the payer in our child support situation. I pay 100% of the child care fees, extra curricular fees, therapy bills... I'd rather not be forced to fork out the extra $35/week child support I'm assessed to pay. Especially as I have 57% of the care.

    I doubt my ex feels duped for not receiving the money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    I disagree, I know many people who have harmonious parenting arrangements with private agreements.

    I'm the payer in our child support situation. I pay 100% of the child care fees, extra curricular fees, therapy bills... I'd rather not be forced to fork out the extra $35/week child support I'm assessed to pay. Especially as I have 57% of the care.

    I doubt my ex feels duped for not receiving the money.
    If that extra $35 taking into account therapy bills you pay?

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    Quote Originally Posted by maternidade View Post
    If that extra $35 taking into account therapy bills you pay?
    Of course not, but if it were done through CSA, it would still be expected.

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    As hard as it would be I think each situation individually. For instance I am a payee and my ex chose to have nothing to do with our DS from a very young age so imo he should pay however if he had something to with our DS I would honestly be happy with help for DS's education.

    My DP is a payer, we take his SD from that relationship every 2nd weekend and half the holidays just like his bio DD. While his SD is with us we clothe, feed, pay for outings etc so I think the child support for his bio DD should be minimal. Their mum receives child support from SD's bio dad however he has nothing to do with her. It doesn't sit right with me.

    Hope that all makes sense

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    Quote Originally Posted by BlissedOut View Post
    I disagree, I know many people who have harmonious parenting arrangements with private agreements.

    I'm the payer in our child support situation. I pay 100% of the child care fees, extra curricular fees, therapy bills... I'd rather not be forced to fork out the extra $35/week child support I'm assessed to pay. Especially as I have 57% of the care.

    I doubt my ex feels duped for not receiving the money.
    I didn't say EVERYONE on a private arrangement is being duped, I said many are. Me being one of them, but as it's easier to just let things be rather than deal with tantrums, bullying and guilt, I suck it up.

    If you got a reassessment done, and showed how you pay for all the other stuff on top of what you pay, wouldn't that be taken into account anyway. I'm sure it works that way.

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    I think it should be case by case. I think there should be MAXIMUM payments and it should be capped after a certain amount. I think its appalling that some people have to pay over $400 a week CS but some people get away with $7. The system is bogus it seems anyone doing the right thing gets screwed and people wanting to dodge CS get away with everything

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    Quote Originally Posted by LotusMum View Post
    I didn't say EVERYONE on a private arrangement is being duped, I said many are. Me being one of them, but as it's easier to just let things be rather than deal with tantrums, bullying and guilt, I suck it up.

    If you got a reassessment done, and showed how you pay for all the other stuff on top of what you pay, wouldn't that be taken into account anyway. I'm sure it works that way.

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    I agree with you about private arrangements.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AMC14 View Post
    As hard as it would be I think each situation individually. For instance I am a payee and my ex chose to have nothing to do with our DS from a very young age so imo he should pay however if he had something to with our DS I would honestly be happy with help for DS's education.

    My DP is a payer, we take his SD from that relationship every 2nd weekend and half the holidays just like his bio DD. While his SD is with us we clothe, feed, pay for outings etc so I think the child support for his bio DD should be minimal. Their mum receives child support from SD's bio dad however he has nothing to do with her. It doesn't sit right with me.

    Hope that all makes sense

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    Every second weekend and half of school holidays still leaves a lot of time for her mum to provide everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MrsBid View Post
    I think it should be case by case. I think there should be MAXIMUM payments and it should be capped after a certain amount. I think its appalling that some people have to pay over $400 a week CS but some people get away with $7. The system is bogus it seems anyone doing the right thing gets screwed and people wanting to dodge CS get away with everything
    What would you consider reasonable capping?
    I think it's fair that a child gets enough money to allow them access to the same things if the parent that pays CS was living with them. Ie. it would suck if kids from Dad's new marriage go to elite private schools, but the kids that live with Mum are going to a public school in hand-me-downs.

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