Because you can't fund it? Of course it's not fair. But that's reality.
I was thinking last last night on this topic and if I was the powers that be, I'd scrap the whole 'new child' system. If a mother goes on to have another baby, her ex's CS payments should not go up. Her choice to have another baby she and the father should be responsible and the ex is only responsible for his bio kids. If he goes onto have another family, the CS for his first children should not go down. He chose to keep going on having kids and his first kids shouldn't pay. Be responsible.
My husband earns a lot more than me. If we divorced I would have to work full-time, live in a crappier house in a crappier suburb and drive a crappier car. That would be the case with him paying for 50% of our sons costs. Is it "fair"? No it would suck! But I wouldn't expect my ex to pay anything for me, only my son.
Financially I would be worse off without my DH and that's just how it is.
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I would like to see a system where step parents who don't whine about how much their step child/ren are costing them but who care for their step child/ren because they love them and because they genuinely want to see their step child/ren succeed in life with every opportunity that they can provide are reimbursed for their time and expenses by the parent who fails to do the job that they are doing.
@CMF you are right, I think I got confused between the two.
@kw123 if my dad was wealthy and mum a lot less, they divorced, I sure hope that if my dad chose to not have us he will still kick some decent money towards me, his own kid, so that I can keep living in a nice house because he can afford it.
If he wasn't I would think he is being a d1ck TBH.
However if I were the mum/wife I'm not sure Id want or accept his money... I would probably want to be as independent as possible.
I agree Frenchie! But even if my DH was more generous that required I would still be less well off than I am now. It costs more to be single because you need to solely cover so many expenses.
I would also have to rent.
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