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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    When the couple splits all bets are off. It's ridiculous to expect to maintain exactly the same lifestyle for the kids. Having a working parent isn't all that bad. Certainly not bad enough to justify one parent paying excessive $$ to support the SAHM lifestyle of the other parent. You split, your and your kids life changes. If the mum is lucky enough to shack up with a rich bloke who will pay her half of the cost for the kids so she can stay home then good on her. As long as the other parent isn't forced to pay more than half the costs of raising the child.
    See I actually agree with ExcuseMyFrench... I had made decisions in my parenting life regarding work, and the time frames that *I* believe are beneficial for my kids in when I return to work and what hours. Just because my husband upped and left me one night, why does that mean that I should be forced into going against my parenting beliefs/plans and making myself and my children even more unhappier than what they already were due to his b@stardly decision? It's just not fair. And provided my plan is still mostly fitting around everyone's needs, why should I change it?

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    Because you can't fund it? Of course it's not fair. But that's reality.

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    I was thinking last last night on this topic and if I was the powers that be, I'd scrap the whole 'new child' system. If a mother goes on to have another baby, her ex's CS payments should not go up. Her choice to have another baby she and the father should be responsible and the ex is only responsible for his bio kids. If he goes onto have another family, the CS for his first children should not go down. He chose to keep going on having kids and his first kids shouldn't pay. Be responsible.

    Problem solved

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    My husband earns a lot more than me. If we divorced I would have to work full-time, live in a crappier house in a crappier suburb and drive a crappier car. That would be the case with him paying for 50% of our sons costs. Is it "fair"? No it would suck! But I wouldn't expect my ex to pay anything for me, only my son.

    Financially I would be worse off without my DH and that's just how it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kw123 View Post
    Because you can't fund it? Of course it's not fair. But that's reality.
    I can fund it fine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    I can fund it fine.
    Sorry I must have misunderstood your post. I thought you were saying if you stayed at home while you were together, why shouldn't you be able to stay at home when you split, with your ex making payments to enable you to do so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kw123 View Post
    Sorry I must have misunderstood your post. I thought you were saying if you stayed at home while you were together, why shouldn't you be able to stay at home when you split, with your ex making payments to enable you to do so.
    No, he makes CS payments towards the children's upbringing, I did not pursue him for Spousal Support. Not many people do. I think perhaps people are confusing CS and spousal support.

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    I would like to see a system where step parents who don't whine about how much their step child/ren are costing them but who care for their step child/ren because they love them and because they genuinely want to see their step child/ren succeed in life with every opportunity that they can provide are reimbursed for their time and expenses by the parent who fails to do the job that they are doing.

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    @CMF you are right, I think I got confused between the two.
    @kw123 if my dad was wealthy and mum a lot less, they divorced, I sure hope that if my dad chose to not have us he will still kick some decent money towards me, his own kid, so that I can keep living in a nice house because he can afford it.
    If he wasn't I would think he is being a d1ck TBH.
    However if I were the mum/wife I'm not sure Id want or accept his money... I would probably want to be as independent as possible.

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    I agree Frenchie! But even if my DH was more generous that required I would still be less well off than I am now. It costs more to be single because you need to solely cover so many expenses.

    I would also have to rent.

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