I see it in RL with woman that I know and from reading so many threads in the Hub where woman are staying with a partner they do not love or somebody they are treated badly by because they can't even afford the rent or mortgage without his wage.
Nobody knows what is in store, it's in your best interests and your children's interests to have some decent job skills. Just in case. Choices are always good, no choice feels like your life is over.
I've worked hard and set myself up in a career of my own, so I'd have that independence.
It wouldn't be right to either my ex, or myself to live with that level of dependence.
Honestly everyone knows my views on how I strongly believe all women should work, but if a woman is raising her kids and supporting her husband and they all enjoy a certain lifestyle and she doesn't work and everyone is happy with that, then it's incredibly destructive for the kids to not only lose their father but then also go to before and after school care 5 days a week almost immediately so their mother can work when that's not what they're used to.
Come on. VicPark I realise your views are skewed by the fact you've never been in that situation. But not every first wife is jetting off to Barbados and having her nails rotated 3 times a week.
so dad cant move on but mum can. right got it
I spend a bit over $800 a fortnight on my children to attend day care alone. Plus food, general medical expenses, costs of fuel to transport them to and from day care etc, clothing, and everything else. They don't do any extra curricular activities at the moment, but that would easily add up as well.
On top of this, I spend hundreds of dollars per month on my sons special medical bills. I'm in the process of arranging for a CSA reassessment because of the extra expenses, but the process is long and difficult.
Current child support amount is abysmal and barely covers any of the above expenses.
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