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    Quote Originally Posted by SpecialPatrolGroup View Post
    I fed my DD to sleep until 20 months but other people could get her to sleep when I wasn't around. I used to feel like such a crap mum because of all of the "rod for your back" stuff people go on with but I genuinely think that is nonsense (my dd weaned herslf and then I would just pat her). If you can feed him to sleep, do it. When you are feeling better and stronger and getting some sleep then you can think about trying some different techniques for sleep. You really sound like you are in survival mode right now, just go with what works now.
    I agree. All of mine are fed to sleep til well over 1 by me but go down easily for anyone else.

    Time to throw the concept of what you "should" be doing away because it's not working. Do what you (and what your son) need to do

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    @heartstringz where are you located?

    There are counsellors you can see on weekends and evenings, DH could drive you if the public transport at those times isn't sufficient. If you are looking for someone to help please don't limit yourself by only looking at people that can come to you.

    There are also great resources available over the phone! They will not care if DS is crying in the background and you would be able to get the ball rolling asap.

    Try PANDA or I'm sure others will have suggestions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Can you get your DH to drive you to a psych appointment?
    Yes this is sooooo important that if your DH needs to take time off work to drive you to an appointment then that's what he bloody well needs to do!

    Don't go away OP, please stay

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    Please dont go away op, everyone here wants to help you get through this.
    We understand how hard it is but we also know that there is light at the end of the tunnel even though it feels like there will be no end to this.
    Unfortunatly alot of our dh's dont understand how hard this mum gig is. He needs to just make time to get you to any appointments to help you with your anxiety. Please keep in touch with us.

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    Don't be afraid to feed to sleep. I did it till my son told me it was time to change and it stopped working! He'd just fall asleep and I didn't hav ever the heart to wake him. Pretty much all his feeds...day and night get him so drowsy he'd just fall asleep. ..but not all the time. I'd try rocking and walking in pram. He'd be asleep within half an hour. No idea what cues meant what. I did what I could at the time. Babies change so much. Feeding to sleep might work for a bit...then something else works. For me I'd give him a dummy and he'd fall asleep on that then it would pop out of his mouth when asleep. Then I had to switch to patting/rubbing his back technique!

    Now at nearly 4 we have to sit in his room with him or he won't fall asleep! But will be asleep in 5 mins! Also if tired he still falls asleep cause of the rocking.

    Like others have said it will take time. Going out in the pram and seeing if he falls asleep is a great idea. Even if he sleeps in his rocker its great. Keep trying and be consistent. My husband use to come home to find me hysterically crying because i couldn't get my son to sleep. Sometimes I'd spend all day putting him to sleep!

    Hope things get better for you.

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    First and foremost, stop doubting yourself! Babies don't come with a manual and it's hard trying to work out their little personalities.

    Do you have your name down for sleep school? If you don't, you need to get someone (gp, psych, mchn) to contact them and explain that it's priority. You may not agree with it, but what have you got to lose? They will be by your side the whole way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lemonpancakes View Post
    Could bub be hungry? My first baby was always unsettled and upset until I stopped trying to breastfeed and switched to formula. Suddenly she was happy and slept. I realised then that she was just upset because she was always hungry and I had poor supply.

    Have you watched Dunstan's baby language? Check out the oprah interview with her on youtube. For weeks I thought my DD just had a cute cry that went "Neh" but now I know that meant she was hungry.
    OP I have the copy of this DVD that was given to me as part of a pay it forward deal. I've been waiting for the right person to come along to pay it forward to. I would be happy to forward it to you if you feel you need help with learning baby language/cues. All I would ask is you forward it on to the next deserving person when you are finished with it. I will even pay the postage.

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    OP I do hope you're ok and coping. Nobody wanted you to go. Don't think you can't share your worries here on the hub. That's what we are here for. Thinking of you and your DS.

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    I always fed DD to sleep. It's what worked for her and me. She is 13 months and hasn't fed to sleep since around 9/10months now. You aren't creating a habit!

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    @heartstringz if you are still reading I just wondered if you are still trying to work out a routine. My dd was not a particularly difficult baby so perhaps I am not qualified to comment but when I stopped trying to influence a routine I was actually able to find a loose routine in her feeds/sleeps/awake and play times.

    How often is bub feeding during the day?


 

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