@heartstringz where are you located?
There are counsellors you can see on weekends and evenings, DH could drive you if the public transport at those times isn't sufficient. If you are looking for someone to help please don't limit yourself by only looking at people that can come to you.
There are also great resources available over the phone! They will not care if DS is crying in the background and you would be able to get the ball rolling asap.
Try PANDA or I'm sure others will have suggestions.
Please dont go away op, everyone here wants to help you get through this.
We understand how hard it is but we also know that there is light at the end of the tunnel even though it feels like there will be no end to this.
Unfortunatly alot of our dh's dont understand how hard this mum gig is. He needs to just make time to get you to any appointments to help you with your anxiety. Please keep in touch with us.
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Don't be afraid to feed to sleep. I did it till my son told me it was time to change and it stopped working! He'd just fall asleep and I didn't hav ever the heart to wake him. Pretty much all his feeds...day and night get him so drowsy he'd just fall asleep. ..but not all the time. I'd try rocking and walking in pram. He'd be asleep within half an hour. No idea what cues meant what. I did what I could at the time. Babies change so much. Feeding to sleep might work for a bit...then something else works. For me I'd give him a dummy and he'd fall asleep on that then it would pop out of his mouth when asleep. Then I had to switch to patting/rubbing his back technique!
Now at nearly 4 we have to sit in his room with him or he won't fall asleep! But will be asleep in 5 mins! Also if tired he still falls asleep cause of the rocking.
Like others have said it will take time. Going out in the pram and seeing if he falls asleep is a great idea. Even if he sleeps in his rocker its great. Keep trying and be consistent. My husband use to come home to find me hysterically crying because i couldn't get my son to sleep. Sometimes I'd spend all day putting him to sleep!
Hope things get better for you.
First and foremost, stop doubting yourself! Babies don't come with a manual and it's hard trying to work out their little personalities.
Do you have your name down for sleep school? If you don't, you need to get someone (gp, psych, mchn) to contact them and explain that it's priority. You may not agree with it, but what have you got to lose? They will be by your side the whole way.
OP I do hope you're ok and coping. Nobody wanted you to go. Don't think you can't share your worries here on the hub. That's what we are here for. Thinking of you and your DS.
I always fed DD to sleep. It's what worked for her and me. She is 13 months and hasn't fed to sleep since around 9/10months now. You aren't creating a habit!
@heartstringz if you are still reading I just wondered if you are still trying to work out a routine. My dd was not a particularly difficult baby so perhaps I am not qualified to comment but when I stopped trying to influence a routine I was actually able to find a loose routine in her feeds/sleeps/awake and play times.
How often is bub feeding during the day?
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