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    Default How do I get a social life?

    Hi all

    I'm a 26 year old mummy with two children (9&2) and one on the way.

    Unfortuately I don't have much of a social life

    Any suggestions?

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    I suppose it depends what sort of social life you're after. I found joining a play group was a good way to make other mum friends, which led to socialising outside of group.

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    Just bumping this up, as I'm really not a sit and whine person, I just need concrete things that I can do to expand my social circle.

    Currently I don't have a talk every day relationship with anybody other than DP, and I don't have 'girlfriend groups' that do things together and all know each other. I don't do superficial, and also feel like I am very different to everybody around me; I struggle to find people who I feel are the right fit for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BettyV View Post
    I suppose it depends what sort of social life you're after. I found joining a play group was a good way to make other mum friends, which led to socialising outside of group.
    Sorry I must have started replying just as you wrote!

    Thanks for the reply. You are right, I should try out a play group. I really fear going as I don't like feeling excluded, which I feel often happens to me. I guess I will have to try and be positive.

    Unfortunately I work a lot and shift work.

    But I will put that on my list ).

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    Sounds like me so I'm no help. I don't do lying, fake, popular garbage. However I do miss have a best friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kristabelle View Post
    Sounds like me so I'm no help. I don't do lying, fake, popular garbage. However I do miss have a best friend.
    Well I'm in Brisbane too . How old are your kids?

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    Try Meetup! There are so many Brisbane based groups that are either play groups, or kid friendly. You should be able to find something that is up your alley, or you could even start a group of your own? That's how I met my local mothers group, I started a group on there, and now have about 6 mums that I regularly catch up with in a group

    ETA - also check out your local PCYC for activities. I've made a few friends through kindergym and yoga.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pheonx View Post
    Well I'm in Brisbane too . How old are your kids?
    Oh awesome! I only have 1 dd who's 3 she's such a social butterfly once she gets comfortable. I sound like a despo but I'd love to have a friend lol

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    I second Meet Up. I go to lots of gatherings through a mums group in my area and it includes evening things without kids. Start doing that, or playgroup, and as you get to know people over a few weeks then put yourself out there and invite people over for morning tea etc. It does take effort to build up a network but well worth it.

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    You know there's not actually any rule that says you have to have mum friends when you have kids- I tried to make friends with other parents and found that I just don't have much in common with other parents. I gave up on that idea and concentrated on making friends elsewhere- like at work for example. You don't have to do the playgroup thing if it makes you uncomfortable.
    What about work, is it a sociable workplace? Or you could join a team sport like netball or soccer, or dance classes? It doesn't have to revolve around kids.

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