Its pretty much just dh and I, my mum passed away in August unexpectedly which has just changed my world. I hate relying on other people and really want to try and get some kind of routine happening
If your DH is a major influence in continuing to breastfeed and it is important to him, get him to help with some of the night feeds so you can pump at night as well.
I found it took a while to perfect a correct hold for DS (who had posterior tongue tie undiagnosed for many weeks. This was surprising as I'd breastfed before and thought I knew what I was doing. He just wasn't very good at throwing his head back enough and opening his mouth really wide.
I had your exact scenario with DS1. I found the ABA a brilliant resource (went to local meetings, the counsellor there can help), local councils have feeding clinics you can spend the day and the LC will help you and usually a couple of other mums, if you birthed in a hospital they should have a clinic, by the way you shouldn't pump for for than 20 min total (all of the above resources agreed on that) 5 min one side then swap and so on. ABA have double pumps so you can do it in 10 min. Learn to feed on your side so you can rest. Refer to the kellymom website for how to do that safely as well as other extremely useful articles etc.. Take baths with your lo the skin on skin naturally increases your supply or hold with just a nappy under your shirt. I had incredible difficulties but knew I wanted to exclusively bf. By 3 months the top ups were gone but I could have done it earlier if I had faith in my supply. Remember the marathon sucking is bringing in your milk and won't last. Carry bub in a carrier if putting down results in wake ups. Good luck, it's the most difficult thing I've ever done. I'm now day 6 with DS 2 and just having the knowledge has made this successful so far.
I never thought I'd not bf and didn't see my baby having bottles of formula so it was a huge mental and emotional struggle but I knew I had to draw the line because I felt like my baby was missing out on a happy, playful mum because I was so stressed and consumed by trying to give her the best food.
Keep doing all you can to build your supply but don't feel horrible if you don't feel you can do it. It's draining. So so draining and I have nothing but praise for women who do work so hard to continue to bf their children. I wish I could have been one of those women but unfortunately I'm not.
Another thing I came across was a lactation aid. It's a little tube that you secure to your nipple and it attaches to a bag of ebm or formula. It ensures baby is getting milk and therfore keeps them interested in suckling while also stimulating your breast to produce milk.
Be kind to yourself. Xo
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Just wanted to update. He's now a month old and still mixed fed - I'm trying to relactate. We discovered DS had a tongue tie which was snipped at two weeks, latching better but still very painful for me and still fussy, found out this week I have nipple thrush which has passed on to him and now we're both on antibiotics. Has been a rough ride and doing everything I can to get my supply up even though I don't enjoy breastfeeding due to the pain
Well done for getting this far. Your story is exactly the same as mine was with DS1 next I got vasospasm! May you be spared that!
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