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    Default What would you do if...(trigger warning)

    ...you found out your partner or child (obviously older child- teenage +) sexually abused a child?

    Another thread got me thinking about this. As a child I was molested by family members and it was only a cpl of yrs ago I told this my family this secret and I was the one made to feel like the filthy one by telling.

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    I would be devastated and do everything I could to help. I am so sorry you weren't supported

    Eta: I read it wrong too. Report them without a doubt. I could not abide it, no matter how much I loved the person.
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    I would report them. No excuse in my opinion.
    How sad for you that you were made to feel like the guilty one :-( I'm so sorry your family wasn't more supportive :-( xxx

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    Quote Originally Posted by ozeymumof5 View Post
    ...you found out your partner or child (obviously older child- teenage +) sexually abused a child?

    Another thread got me thinking about this. As a child I was molested by family members and it was only a cpl of yrs ago I told this my family this secret and I was the one made to feel like the filthy one by telling.
    I was sexually abused as a child and I've only opened up about it in the last 18 months. I still haven't gone into detail. My mother claims she didn't know and she still refers to the the person as my 'father' (he was my SF). I'm resentful, angry and hurt. The older I get, the harder it is. My DF knows now but not the specifics, I'm too frightened to tell him because it will hurt and upset him.

    If MY child was abused I would report the abuser, support my child, get angry and a whole range of things. I would do everything my mother didn't.

    If MY child or family member was an abuser, I'd have them convicted and I would NOT support them. I couldn't.


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    I would be there for them; let them know that it wasn't their fault, seek counselling, tell them that it's not too late to report this person if that's something they want to do.

    ETA if I knew someone had abused a child, I would report them and cut all contact... No hesitation.
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    My child

    I would support them by taking the to police station and owning up to crime and paying the conquence (jail time). I would help them get the medical help they needed.
    While still supporting the victim in every way I could.

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    Report them and do everything in power to get them convicted and get help. I would have no problem cutting the off.


    I would always support the victim.
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    Oh sh*t! I've read it wrong!! I thought you said WAS abused!!! I'll modify my post!!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Jodes35 View Post
    Oh sh*t! I've read it wrong!! I thought you said WAS abused!!! I'll modify my post!!


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    If it were a random family member I would report them with out a seconds hesitation.
    If it were my child it would kill me but I would report them.

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    Pretty much what anewme said.

    However, if the perpetrator was my partner or another member of my family, I wouldn't be able to remain supportive. If it was my child, I guess in someway I would feel responsible and would do everything that I could to try and be supportive in assisting them to make things right but yeah, bottom line, the victim comes first.


 

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