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    Question Inviting the whole class to parties?

    Our eldest DS is in Kindy and this year is having a big birthday party. The school asks that invites include the whole class to avoid hurt feelings and that was no problem because DS wants the whole class anyway, plus a few extra from another class.

    But there have been two boys who bother him (they are NOT in his class), they are rough boys and DS has often mentioned that they have pushed or been rough with him. We've spoken to his teacher and they are keeping an eye on the situation but my questions are these;

    If there are kids in your child's class who your child doesn't like or get along with, do you still invite them to their birthday party?

    Do you invite the whole class to your child's birthday parties to avoid hurt feelings?

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    I have never invited the whole class.
    I also think it's a bit rich for the school to ask that the whole class gets invited! I'd tell them to get stuffed!

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    I don't plan on inviting all 19 of DD's classmates to her party. I think I'll invite 5-10 as we have outside friends to invite too.

    I think if you just send invited via post or email then no feelings will be hurt. I know that my DD hasn't been invited to a few parties recently but she's none the wiser. She thinks that it's a party if they have cake and sing happy birthday during class time.

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    We did a whole class party for prep then DS chose 8 kids from school(in a few different classes) for his year 1 party and this year he chose 1 person to help celebrate. We wont be doing the whole class again as its too expensive esp as they grow up. Next year he is back to having a party and can have a total of 15 kids.

    If a school wants them to invite a whole class, maybe the school should have the party.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    I have never invited the whole class.
    I also think it's a bit rich for the school to ask that the whole class gets invited! I'd tell them to get stuffed!
    I agree. It's really none of their business. I understand where they are coming from, but hosting a party that could potentially be quite large is hard work that not everyone would be up for. What if your child just wanted to have a little party with a few of their closest friends?

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    No. I would never invite a whole class.

    Why the he'll would I invite someone my child doesn't like to their party. That's stupid.

    I don't let the school dictate how I parent.

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    I have to admit I'm a bit surprised - I thought I was pretty standard now to invite the class? At least in the early years?

    Admittedly DS only has a class of 14 kids but all parties this year have involved the whole class, except one that was just the boys..

    I understand the difficulties as they get older and do different activities but in kindy its just extra food and party bags..

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    I don't think the school should dictate to parents how birthdays should be celebrated. However, I think parents/kids should exercise discretion in how invitations are given out and not do it at school in front of other kids which would cause hurt feelings.
    It's also rude to talk about a party in front of people who weren't invited, but I'm not sure that on Monday morning when everyone's back at school, you can stop little kids talking about it. So maybe feelings will be hurt no matter what?

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    Jesus! Ask the school if they are gonna pay for it!

    How dare they dictate anything outside of school.

    Hellll no!

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    No way in hell would I invite the whole class!! And if the school expects it well they can bloody well pay for it!

    We limit dd1 to 5-6 friends, although due to her behaviour the last 2 years she has missed out on that as well.

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