+ Reply to Thread
Page 4 of 24 FirstFirst ... 2345614 ... LastLast
Results 31 to 40 of 231
  1. #31
    Join Date
    Oct 2014
    Posts
    39
    Thanks
    21
    Thanked
    50
    Reviews
    0
    I am really struggling to see things clearly from here in the middle of it.

    Redlipsandpearls, thankfully my kids are very young still so I am 100% certain nothing untoward would have happened to them directly. My stepchild on the other hand is a teenager and has SO much going on already.

    Desperate for the kids to get to sleep so DH and I can talk. I don't know if he'll have much to say though, he looks completely dumbstruck.

  2. #32
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Posts
    10,939
    Thanks
    2,608
    Thanked
    2,864
    Reviews
    14
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    OP, I am so sorry to hear you're all going through this, and feel for you all so much.

    If I can offer any practical advice, it's that I implore you to see if your poor Dh is open and receptive to speaking with a Counsellor, specifically a trained one in family therapy, as right now not only will he be absorbing the shock and sheer gravity of the disclosure/details, but also he will be severely mourning the loss of the image and notion he has had of his Father to date.

    He honestly will need guidance in learning to cope with the new notion and person that is his Father and grappling with that, as unfortunately all he has ever known of his Father to date and known to be is no longer.

    In regards to your children asking after etc of their Grandfather, I would advise you to ring 'Brave Hearts' or look up their web page and speak to Hetty Johnson, as she will have some excellent advice, coping strategies and practical advice in regards to moving forward with what you have now.

    To you all.

  3. The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to Mod-Uniquey For This Useful Post:

    atomicmama  (05-10-2014),Devastated29  (04-10-2014),Lillac  (07-10-2014),LoveLivesHere  (04-10-2014),Mod-Myztik  (14-10-2014),Mokeybear  (04-10-2014),ourbradybunch  (04-10-2014),PlayNice  (12-10-2014),SuperGranny  (08-10-2014),vue  (04-10-2014),~Marigold~  (04-10-2014)

  4. #33
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    22,846
    Thanks
    6,200
    Thanked
    16,890
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Bubhub Blogger - Thanks100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by Jodes35 View Post
    I'm with VP on this. MIL cannot be trusted. She has completely betrayed you, your DH and your children.
    Sorry but I agree. She has not only stood behind a man that is potentially a pedophile but has not told you and your husband the truth throughout all this. This is beyond denial. Even if she refused to believe it, she should of told the OP and her husband what was happening.

  5. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to delirium For This Useful Post:

    Jodes35  (04-10-2014),LoveLivesHere  (04-10-2014),VicPark  (05-10-2014)

  6. #34
    Join Date
    Oct 2014
    Posts
    39
    Thanks
    21
    Thanked
    50
    Reviews
    0
    Thanks Uniquey that is great advice. DH has a great respect for counselling/therapy and has benefited from it in the past so I feel sure he will be open to seeking help with this.

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to Devastated29 For This Useful Post:

    Mod-Myztik  (14-10-2014)

  8. #35
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Posts
    334
    Thanks
    305
    Thanked
    206
    Reviews
    0
    I also couldn't read and not respond, I feel for you guys. You and your DH will get through this, am sending lots of positive thoughts your way xx

  9. #36
    Join Date
    Aug 2014
    Posts
    241
    Thanks
    239
    Thanked
    123
    Reviews
    0
    I don't think anyone is saying MIL did the right thing by not disclosing the truth...just that she has been put in a sh*tty, sh*tty position.

    I always feel this way about the wives in a scandal (ie. Hilary Clinton, Robert Hughes' wife, etc).

    It's just a crap situation all round OP, I feel for you.
    Don't feel too panicky about your little girls..they are innocent and seem to be unharmed. They can stay blissfully ignorant. xo

  10. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Explora For This Useful Post:

    tazz475  (05-10-2014),~Marigold~  (04-10-2014)

  11. #37
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Melbourne
    Posts
    4,321
    Thanks
    1,552
    Thanked
    2,537
    Reviews
    10
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. I can't begin to imagine what your family, your DH and you are found through.

    Must be so confronting

    I just don't have any advice but counseling. Can't imagine what one is supposed to do when they find out that a close family member is a paedophile.

    Does your DH have a sister? I just can't believe that MIL has only discover about her husband sexual orientation now tbh.
    I wouldn't trust her either. She has chosen to protect him before her children and grand children.

  12. #38
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,831
    Thanks
    1,054
    Thanked
    1,215
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Hugs OP to you and your DH. I feel sick on your behalf. All the best wading through the hundreds of thoughts that must be swirling around in your head right now.

  13. #39
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    Posts
    74
    Thanks
    22
    Thanked
    15
    Reviews
    0
    So sorry for what you are going through, and especially your husband, as it is his parent. Just wanted to offer my prayer for your family in this hard time.
    Hope counselling will kick off as soon as possible!

  14. #40
    Mod-SammiAnn's Avatar
    Mod-SammiAnn is offline Administrator
    Winner 2010- The Most Helpful Member Award

    Winner 2010- Member You'd Most Like To Meet IRL Award
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    5,218
    Thanks
    1,887
    Thanked
    839
    Reviews
    5
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by [Mod] Uniquey View Post
    OP, I am so sorry to hear you're all going through this, and feel for you all so much.

    If I can offer any practical advice, it's that I implore you to see if your poor Dh is open and receptive to speaking with a Counsellor, specifically a trained one in family therapy, as right now not only will he be absorbing the shock and sheer gravity of the disclosure/details, but also he will be severely mourning the loss of the image and notion he has had of his Father to date.

    He honestly will need guidance in learning to cope with the new notion and person that is his Father and grappling with that, as unfortunately all he has ever known of his Father to date and known to be is no longer.

    In regards to your children asking after etc of their Grandfather, I would advise you to ring 'Brave Hearts' or look up their web page and speak to Hetty Johnson, as she will have some excellent advice, coping strategies and practical advice in regards to moving forward with what you have now.

    To you all.
    Awesome, awesome advice there ^^^. You're doing just fine Devastated29


 

Similar Threads

  1. Trigger warning - breaking news of grandparent death to a child
    By moongazer in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 17
    Last Post: 10-09-2014, 11:41
  2. *Trigger Warning* Would you/have you abandoned a child with disabilities?
    By dee1 in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 56
    Last Post: 03-08-2014, 11:53

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
WaterWipes
Give your babies bottom a gift this Xmas! They are the only wipe made using just water and a drop of grapefruit seed extract and may help avoid nappy rash. Check out the great reviews on bubhub and see our website for more info and availability.
sales & new stuffsee all
The Health Hub
Give a new mum a fitness boost for Christmas & New Year. Studio-based, small group training sessions - cardio, strength, core, Pilates & boxing. Choice of 16 hrs per week, flexible-arrival feature - bubs & kids welcome! Gift vouchers available.
featured supporter
Pea Pods Reusable Nappies
Pea Pods are the smart choice when it comes to choosing what's best for you, your baby and the environment. Affordable and simple to use, Pea Pods keep your baby dry & happy. Visit our website to find your nearest stockist or order online.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!