I am really struggling to see things clearly from here in the middle of it.
Redlipsandpearls, thankfully my kids are very young still so I am 100% certain nothing untoward would have happened to them directly. My stepchild on the other hand is a teenager and has SO much going on already.
Desperate for the kids to get to sleep so DH and I can talk. I don't know if he'll have much to say though, he looks completely dumbstruck.