Would your dh be able to talk to your SIL? Maybe then it wouldn't come out as you being the bad guy and she'd believe it more if her brother told her about it?
I'm so sorry about this entire thing. I originally told u to cut your mil some slack, but having read the entire thread, I agree wholeheartedly that you need to cut them off.
I can't imagine what you're going thru. I think in some ways it's worse than dying unexpectedly and never having the opportunity to say goodbye.
Hugs to you all xoxo
DH is on the phone to FIL at the moment. FIL messaged him this afternoon saying "instead of devasted29 and MIL texting, how about I call you tonight and we can discuss it ourselves". Wow, a novel idea FIL to actually speak to your son about what's happened. We spoke at length before he made the call, going over everything that has happened and the fact that he would try to guilt him and likely try to convince him that I am being hysterical. Amazing how he has only bothered to make an effort now that they know we will be talking to the police huh? They really must think we are idiots.
Broken hearted for DH. He is fully prepared that this will most likely be the last time he speaks to his father.
I have no advice ... but my heart goes out to you that what you thought was your reality has been taken away from you... I can't even imagine the thoughts you'd have swirling through your head and unsettling your stomach. Take care x
Not sure if this is a crazy idea or not but DH has made the comment his parents have died. Can you hold a memorial serious for closure?
You guys are amazing. I mean that! I don't think I could keep it together as well as you have. Just keep swimming.
If your convicted FIL ends up in prison because he breached an order by being around your children, then the only person responsible for that outcome is FIL. He is the paedofile. He chose to breach the order (if that's the case) knowing the consequences.
If MIL can't see that the victim here is not FIL and that he (and he alone) is responsible for his actions, then that's not your problem to deal with right now. Your only focus right now is looking after you, DH and your children.
You and DH have done nothing wrong. Don't let others victim blame and make their problems your problem.
Last edited by clbj; 10-10-2014 at 22:42.
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