such a terrible situation for any one to have to face. I really cant add any more advice, I do want to say I will be thinking of you all. Only your husband and your children need your support and care, ignore and avoid your inlaws. what is really horrid about this, is how long has this been going on?? This behaviour often starts and continues for many years undetected. what a nightmare. I am so sorry for you, and your dh. marie.