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    I think the Dr Phil reference refers to males staying in the house on a permanent basis, not a singular event.

    My house has a similar configuration, I move my children into my bedroom when having gatherings, not because I believe a friend or family member would cause them harm but to err on the side of caution.

    In answer to your question, I would let my friend's partner stay, it wouldn't occur to me to tell them they couldn't stay but I would take the necessary precautions.

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    No.

    I remember Christmas school holidays when I was 15, my sister who was 25 at the time bought her very new boyfriend along.
    They stayed the night, my parents went off to work the next morning, my sister took off to go meet up with friends at the local shopping center. And I was left home alone with this dude.
    He tried for around an hour or so to... You know.
    I remember calling my boyfriend at the time in tears and him and his mum came and picked me up.
    My parents actually laughed about it and he stayed for the rest of the week.

    So with that in mind I will never let any stranger, someone I don't know well, or some one I have gut feelings about into the house.
    Regardless if they are a friends partner, a families partner or what have you.
    It's not just males, I would do the same for any female strangers I don't know/trust as well.
    I couldn't live with myself if my child ever felt fear like that or if something happened.

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    To me it's outrageous the way people assume the worst in someone.
    But to avoid going off topic for op, I'll keep my opinion to myself. I apologise op.

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    Pre-kids yes if I trusted friend and her judgement.

    After kids no.

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    I'm pretty sure I know what I will do if the situation arises... For $hits and giggles I might ask the hubby what his views are... (I wonder if the male mind views things differently?)

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    Quote Originally Posted by SimmyN View Post
    To me it's outrageous the way people assume the worst in someone.
    But to avoid going off topic for op, I'll keep my opinion to myself. I apologise op.
    No need to apologise

    And in this scenario I am erring on the side of caution because to be honest my friend has a $hithouse record in choosing men: I can't trust her judgement

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    My mother once had a strange man sleep on our couch when I was 13 she knew him but not overly well. When she woke up on the morning to take a shower he tried to kiss me! And that's just one instance of many that I remember

    Not a chance in hell would I have someone I don't know stay over. But that's me.

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    I think I would deal with the situation based on the friend first.
    A close friend who I'd trust their judgement, yeah I'd have no problem with them bringing partner over but I'm pretty sure that type of friend would run it by me first.
    A friend like yours VicPark, whom you aren't really close with anyway and has a dodgy history with men? Absolutely no way and if she though it was OK to rock up with him without even asking, I'd be furious.

    Will you ask her if she's coming alone?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phony View Post

    Will you ask her if she's coming alone?
    I don't think so... ? It's sort of opening up the line of conversation I don't want to go down... Like asking then saying no.. I would rather bury my head in the sand, wait for her to bring it up and then say no.....

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    VicPark, don't risk it. My sister was raped by our uncle, and since then I have a policy...my kids will NEVER stay overnight at anyone's house other than my parents, and NO men will ever stay at our house whilst the kids are home. Don't care who I offend.

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