2) Another One Bites the Dust to be played
Our plots at the cemetery are leased already (buried our stillborn 13 weeks ago). I'll go in with our baby and DH will be next to us. We know what grave and headstone design we want. I want Leave Out All The Rest by Linkin Park to be played. I want every piece of me that can be donated and used to help others to be taken if possible. I don't want any religious stuff. I want people to laugh and remember the good times. Yep, have thought about it lots (even before we lost our baby).
Cremated and ashes spread at a special childhood spot. Other than that neither DH and I have planned anything. It pains me to say - we don't even have wills...and we both lost a parent young - so we know all to well that it can happen any time. I've got to get my **** into gear and do something about it.
Organ donation as well!
This is really interesting to read...
I want to be buried in a bio disposal box in Christchurch. There's a place there that's kind of a forest/swamp land. You don't get a head stone, I'd like to go back to nature. (I assume they keep records etc of where bodies are buried)
I do not under any circumstances want to be cremated. Don't want to be burnt alive just incase they declared me dead and I wasn't!
I'm an organ donor, they can take everything but my eyes and skin.
I want a bright pink stilleto shaped casket, I dont care how you fold me in (but I can't wear heels in real lift so it's my big chance). I want a catholic service, have chosen my songs, and my plot will be with my mum.
My dad's ashes were with us for a while, we dressed the box up for christmas and easter, the royal wedding etc - and always put a glass of wine next to it for him.
Spreading the ashes in the ocean was interesting - there was heaps more than expected and the tide changed and we got 'dad' all over us. Gotta see the funny side sometimes, he would have.
I don't speak to my Brother or Sisters because of what went on at my Mums funeral....and I have NO friends so just the kids ...The only thing that I'm leaning towards is cremation don't want to be alone in a coffin ...already played that part of alone in life don't want to play it in death also....last thing would be for my kids to play the music that I love ...that reminds them of me ....
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I'm scared of death. I admit it. It is quite a thing for me. But at the end of the day - we all will go there, and maybe it is ok to make it lovely - memorable? With the music you love and the people you love - even if that is just the kids. You know? Maybe we have it all wrong? Maybe we should take a lead from other cultures where death is celebrated because it is just the next step...not the end. You know what I mean?
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