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    Default step mum in need of help!

    my partner has a 3 year old daughter. he and his ex separated several years ago on bad terms. he has been going through the courts for around 2 years battling with his ex. the major issue we have been having is her mum hasn't even been attempting toilet training. shes still in nappies full time. how can we approach toilet training if her mum isn't doing it at home when she has her full time and we see her once a fortnight? she has no interest in trying to wear knickers instead of a nappy. we don't want to force the issue as shes a bit stressed and confused at the moment thanks to court battles for custody rights. I have never been in this situation before as I have never had a partner with a child from a previous relationship and im totally lost for advice.

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    Some kids aren't even ready at 3 she is still pretty young and it would cause more stress and confusion for her than anything. As you said she is going through changes in her life and situation so don't pressure her too much she won't be in nappies forever.

    It has to be a consistent thing too can't do one thing at your house and not at Mum's. And if Mum is her full time carer she may have her reasons why she hasn't tried yet- she may have tried but the little lady isn't ready. You would need to get your partner to communicate with her Mum so you know what she is doing and how you can help.

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    unfortunately mum and dad aren't actually allowed to communicate which makes it extra difficult. at what age should we seriously consider toilet training her? its so difficult to get her into any kind of routine with the situation at the moment. shes so confused as to why things aren't the same here as they are at home for her. we have a lot of difficulty with discipline as it seems she has a slight problem with the word no and I think tantrums work for her at home. I want to be able to give her stability when she is with us but its so difficult when we don't know what goes on at home in her routine. very stressful

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    Can they have any communication? Say through a third party? Just the basics about routine etc.


 

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