Would you say something if a friend begged you to go to their house for a play date with their toddler, and even went as far as guilt tripping me by saying how her DS will be very upset and disappointed if we couldn't make it (I wasn't feeling well pregnancy wise - braxton hicks etc) and once you get there and the boys start playing you realise their child is actually pretty sick with a cold or something? Her kid had a streaming snotty nose continuously, sneezing and coughing. He was temperamental ... very in DS face the whole time, very aggressive.
I asked her how long her DS has been unwell for and she fobbed it off saying its barely anything. Anyways since that catch up my DS has gone down. Running temps... coughing sneezing miserable. Snotty nose. Off his food.... I feel so angry but also feel I am to blame for not just packing up and leaving as soon as i saw her kid so unwell. But i hate to say it, since i have become more heavier pregnant I don't seem to be wanting to get into it with anyone right now. I should have just left, but that is quite a statement to make and no doubt would have angered her.
I drove 50 mins to get there so felt silly leaving after about 30 mins. I know i am to blame for staying.. but i thought it was a unwritten rule to not invite people over when you're sick? Or go to their house? Would you say something or just let it go? There are other things about this friend that have made me realise I just need to distance myself from her as I have learned she is actually a real power tripper that thrives on calling the shots with people. I am also feeling like I am getting the bug now. And that's the last thing i need as my OB has already told me my bub could come early.... DS came 2 months early, this one could come at any time and now I am falling sick because she was selfish.
Should i just leave it or mention something? i feel really peeved off about it. She is expecting lots of play dates with me as her DS gets very limited social interaction as she feels guilty sending him to day care (so she says) but to me this is a bit of a red flag if she can't even follow the common courtesy to telling me when her kid is sick. She knows how often DS has been sick this year too with bugs from child care.
No doubt if i mention something she will tell me DS caught it from his child care not her DS.