It would be a different situation if you lived somewhere so remote there was no OB in your town and you had no choice, but to forgo obstetric care close by based on personality clash would be foolish and maybe even risky, in my opinion.
No matter how much I disliked the OB in town, I would 110% be seeing him due to proximity.
If my next pregnancy was anything like my last, I would not do it. It was very high risk, but the chances of that ever happening to me again are like one in a zillion. We would know at the start if so.
So in saying that, I would only ever do this if I were low risk. If anything happened, no, I would not drive 3 hours to deliver, I would present at my nearest local hospital. I'm not a risk taker. But if I could successfully do this, within reason, i'd like to.
Maybe there's an option of sharing care between a local midwife, and my preferred OB? I'm not sure.
I birthed somewhere 1 1/2 hours drive from home. It was fine during pregnancy, no worries. We went and stayed close by near due date and in the end had to stay 5 weeks! It was ok but you want to nestle in and nest and be comfortable in your home in that time, so I felt unsettled. But it wasn't too bad.
I've done it twice(we live rurally and have a hospital an hour away that I'm not fond of or the city 3 hours away), and the there and back trip in one day for antenatal appointments....just so I could have my ob, I don't think it's diva-ish I would rather have an ob who I am comfortable with. I went and stayed closer to the hospital and 37 - 38 weeks. If there is a next time I plan to do shared care with our local gp/ob but will still deliver in the city
Do you have to go private? What are the public local obs like? You couldn't pay me to give birth under a private ob.
I would travel 3 days to avoid the "care" provider who neglected, abused and traumatised me during my last birth. The choice is yours, but I absolutely would NOT see someone I was not comfortable with just because they were closer. Lesson learned too late for me, sadly. Saving 3 hours now could be a decision you pay for for the rest of your life. If he's being awful to you now, what will it be like when you're in labour and at your most vulnerable? I hope you're able to find a safe alternative to the local jerk. Good luck with your decision!
He spoke down to me, made me feel like an idiot for being upset, and told me it happens to women all around the world and to 'get over it'.
So you're right, is hate to encounter him later in the more emotional stages of a pregnancy!
By the way, you noticed I called the town we're moving to 'town b', as it's on the smaller side I don't want it known who I'm talking about.
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