I've done some research but I'd really like some feedback and help from people with experience.
I've always wanted to donate, but now that I've just had my own beautiful baby and experienced the joy it brings as well understanding the pain of not being able to experience it the idea is really cementing in my mind. I'm in the middle of preparing for my second child which I take incredibly seriously health-wise. No caffeine, alcohol, headache tablets with codeine, mobile phone in pocket and so on. Daily vitamins and Menevit for 100 days beforehand. It's a bit of an ordeal living like a monk so I thought, whilst I'm being this good for our own go at conception, maybe now is the time to look at donating. I had a very very high count when I got tested, many times the average and our last baby was conceived in a week.
Basically I think I can help. But I have two problems. One is that I live in northern NSW and there doesn't appear to be any clinic near me that can accept donations. The nearest one I can find is in Robina near the Goldcoast and for some ridiculous reason they won't accept NSW sperm although I'm about as far away from them as a donor in Brisbane.
So my first question is, does anyone know of a clinic closer to Northern NSW that will accept donations? Or any way around that? Set up a second residence in QLD or something?
My second question is about non-clinic donation like on this forum which I've only really just learned about. I'd like to hear about some of the benefits and particularly the pitfalls of this from a donor's perspective.
Does anyone have much experience with the good and the bad of this method coming from the standpoint of someone that wouldn't be up for much contact with a donor child, more like facebook friends with their mother to watch them grow and a bit of penpal action while they're teenagers if they wanted that at most. Whilst I adore the idea of my baby having a half sister or brother out there (as well as another piece of my heart) I don't think it would be fair to her to share her dad's time too much, even though in a perfect world I would want to. I would imagine during the university years onward when it's hard enough getting your child to call home that might change.
I also have concerns about local donations and the prospect of my children meeting their donor siblings without knowing if its a no contact situation.
Also the area apart from Byron and segments of the hinterland isn't the most advanced socio-economically and I have strong convictions about education and the importance of book reading and learning within the home which is hopefully financially and emotionally stable. But I can't spend the time travelling and run several businesses. Even when I thought I found a clinic in Lismore I imagined my wife's face as I slipped out of morning baby duties twice a week for a couple of months to donate
At any rate I'd appreciate input from others as I likely won't be ready to donate until next year and will have sometime to think about it.