So, df asked his best mate of 20+ years to be his best man for our wedding a couple of months ago, and of course he said yes to it. We went to said friends 30th b'day last night & was told that his cousin (21 year old) has asked him to be one of his grooms men for his wedding, get this, which is on the same day as our wedding!. Now, he is "indecisive" of whos wedding to be a part of.
Am I not the only one to think this is rude & should have told his cousin "sorry, but I'm already in my best friends wedding the same day".
It was so awkward last night because his friend only told us about it right before his cousin and his girlfriend arrived! To make matters worse they asked us to change the date of our wedding! We of course said no thats ridiculous.
Then his cousins (b!tch) of a girlfriend had the nerve to start up on "well, I had already planned everything before we were engaged and its already all been paid for", as if that makes a difference? Sorry love, but we got engaged months before you, had booked the date months ago & asked DF's friend to be in our wedding party months ago.
We really are devastated that he's pretty much f@cking over his best friend, and willing to ruin his longest friendship over this.
I never understood how friendships can go sour when it comes to weddings until now, DF is really gutted & he doesnt have many close friends, he chose his two closest friends to be a apart of our wedding & now he doesnt know who to ask to take his place. Lets face it, the fact that his friend has had to "decide" on whos wedding to be a part of even though he already committed to ours months ago, says that hes just recently chosen his cousin over us & doesnt know how to tell us.
Are we over-reacting or being a bit precious over all of this or do you share the same opinion that it was a real d!ck move of his friend to do this to his best friend, and has now basically ruined his friendship. Should we just make the decision for him & cut our losses, get someone in to replace him & end the friendship (I know it sounds a bit dramatic, but it just goes to show how highly he thinks of their friendship in the end).