Following as I currently have a very frequent night waker (8 months) and I know I need tips to cut him back!
Subbing as well. Ds3 is 9mth old and cosleeps simply coz I'm too exhausted to wake up.
Funnily enough he settles better for dh than me so I just have to convince dh to help out for a few nights and then hopefully he will sleep well. Happy to wake up once, but not every 2hrs, that just kills me.
Piyamj, no I didn't need to do the whole Jay Gordon thing as the night I started she slept until 2am before waking which was so much better than usual. And that just continued so seems the improvement mainly happened naturally. I did continue to do the plan he recommends for first three nights though which is feed but don't allow her to fall asleep on the boob. So when she wakes I still just do that. There was some crying at first which was hard but I just cuddled her until she fell asleep. She is very easy to get back to sleep now and normally only wakes once between 2-4 am. I tend to stay with her on the mattress on her bedroom floor from that time as it's easier. And then she's awake for the dates around 5am, can be later. She was sleeping until 6-6:30 before this so the earlier mornings are hard but you can't have it all! In general I'm getting more sleep than before, so it's great. Will try to totally night wean in a couple of months or more but not pushing it at the moment as just so glad with the improvement already.
By the way, to those interested the Jay Gordon approach isn't recommended under 12 months in case they really need the milk and it's not just comfort. But you know your bubs and just doing the short feed not allowing them to fall asleep feeding might really help.
Unfortunately the only thing that worked for us was just going hardcore too. Initially DH resettled each time, but then that stopped working (DS would just scream as soon as he was put down) and we just had to let him cry because literally nothing else worked (he would wake up and scream as soon as he was put down and wouldn't stand for patting/rocking/laying next to him - he only wanted to be held standing up). Took three nights of us just not going in and now he sleeps 7-6.30.
Last edited by HollyGolightly81; 19-10-2014 at 19:52.
Hi Bond girl- we've spoken about this before, so DS is nearly one and the wakings are insane right. We almost successfully night weaned twice with just DH resettling at night but both times he's given up too soon because of whatever work commitment. Must be rough not getting much sleep for four nights...
Anyways, was just wondering if you had a link for jay Gordon's method?
Hi, He has a website explaining the method. I googled Dr Jay Gordon night weaning and was able to find it pretty quickly. It's like a blog on his website or something. Let me know if you can't find it and when I have a chance I'll look for you :-)
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