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    If you're not comfortable with it then it shouldn't happen.

    My kids have showered with their grandparents...it doesn't bother me (I remember jumping in the shower with my nana when I was young) but if it did I would ask the grandparents not to shower with my kids and expect it to be respected.

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    I don't have an issue with it personally , we are all quite comfortable with things such as nudity and tend not to make a big deal out of it. That said, if your gut is saying you're not comfortable with it, you should say something.

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    This would personally freak me out. Go with your gut.

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    I can't imagine I would have a problem with it. I feel like people really sexualise nudity when it's just our natural state of being. Being naked around a child doesn't equal sexual.

    Anyway. Obviously if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then your wishes should be acknowledged.
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    There is a range of what is considered normal with regards to nudity and children so i'm just going to say this. You as a mum don't like it, you're dh doesn't like it as the father of your son and your dh didn't like it when he was put in the same position as your little fella. Go with this as well as your intuition. It's your right as a parent to put in boundaries on behalf of your son. Those boundaries should be respected. As for MIL's response, if that was the first then it's quite odd but 2 days later I would assume other things had been said in the meantime.

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    My parents shower with my DDs and I have no issue with it. We're on tank water, it just makes sense! Also when I'm at work I expect my parents to pretty much be me (I work shift work), so they are just doing what I would do when there's no time for a bath.

    However if I asked them not to I would expect them to respect my decision.

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    I would go with my gut and perhaps come up with something so as not to offend your in-laws.
    Personally I have no problem with my dd (4) showering with my step dad or my mum until she or they feel uncomfortable with it. It's all about being comfortable and of you are feeling uneasy about it I would definitely say something and put a stop to it.

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    I had started to write out a long reply but have just decided on answering simply: I don't think it's right. Just...no. Doesn't sit well with me. Why does he insist on accompanying a 3 year old in the shower? It's not necessary....
    It's a huge conclusion to jump to, yes. It's also a sad and disturbing matter to have to consider; it could be completely innocent; but being cautious is important.
    Better off putting a stop to it and being wrong in your accusations than not putting a stop to it and your gut feelings being a reality, if that makes sense...


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    I just wanted to add- there are a lot of comments about 'step-fathers' and the fact that it's not ok for them in particular to be showering with children. This makes me a bit uncomfortable for a few reasons. The 'step' at the start of the name has no bearing on the persons possibility of being a pedophile. Are people forgetting that fathers, mothers, grandmothers, aunties and uncles are also capable of this. Just because the child is not blood related doesn't mean the 'step' would be more likely to do something. My step dad is all dd knows as a grandfather as I lost my dad when shortly after she was born. I consider him to be her grandfather (no 'step' needed in the title) and she loves him to bits and vice versa.
    I don't want to start a debate but I just wanted to advocate for the 'steps' out there who do an amazing job and love our children like their own. Sorry of anyone take offence to this it's not my intention.

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    And anyway...why does a grandparent need to shower with a child?

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