I need someone to tell me when it is okay for a step father and now grandfather to shower with my 3 yr old. Like my FIL did 3 times in one week. I talked to my husband about it and he said he didn't like it either when he was little. So he told his mother he thinks it's weird and we are not comfortable with it. (We just moved to their state and staying at their house). So 2 days later she asks if we think he is out to hurt our son? Like what are we referring? I told her my husband didn't like it either and she looked at him and said He NEVER hurt you at least 5 times in a row. I'm thinking no lady pedophiles love children, and who are you trying to convince? I think my husband has his own discomfort about it..I think she is in denile about her perfect life. At 3 if he is standing in a shower with an old man he is genitalia height and my son doesn't need to see that. Does anyone else think I'm out of line?