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    Isn't there something about if you want to make a relationship work after cheating that you can't continue to use the fact that they cheated against them, acknowledge and attempt to work through the issues but it can't be a pawn in every argument. Three years on that's what she seems to be doing, and putting it all over Facebook. How embarrassing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonezart View Post
    God I just lost it at douchecanoe!


    "And I gave that guy directions. Even though I didn't know the way. Because that's just the kind of guy I am this week. "
    Do tell..

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    Sounds like she's looking for support and validation, regardless of how ridiculous it is to basically force her partner into staying together. It might be a case of her knowing deep down that this isn't the right thing to do, but desperately looking for justification so she can feel better about her actions.

    Whatever she's telling herself (or others are telling her) it's not going to end well!

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    I feel sorry for her ...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bonezart View Post
    Thanks, its good to see that if I'm wrong, so are all of you.

    Basically her stance is, and shes posted this all over her facebook:
    If you cheat on me and I forgive you, you are with me until I say its over! You chose to cheat, you don't get to make another choice and leave.

    I knew it was crazy but you know, sometimes you like to hear others say it. She's got friends agreeing with her - what is wrong with this world!
    Wow that is just ridiculous! It sounds very childish.

    Seriously, the guy wasn't happy and cheated, he's STILL not happy... So will most likely cheat again because she's forcing him to stay with her. She is only causing MORE heartache for herself.

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    I believe you should work on a relationship before you just up and leave.
    That's what he did. He went to counciling etc...
    It didn't work. So he is leaving totally fair

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    She's been blindsided by this, I understand that and it's a knee jerk reaction because she doesn't want him calling the shots yet again. I don't know how to get through to her. Rick seems concerned for her and doesn't want to leave her in that state, leading me to believe there's definitely more to this.
    I want to be there for her even though I completely disagree with her thinking. Rick told me me that he started packing up some stuff and wants to move it while she's at work and make it real.
    I'm unsure about how to make Lisa see that she's just making a situation worse for herself. She's usually kind of rational. Maybe I should share this thread with her. Other people agreeing it's crazy might help. Thanks everyone.


    "And I gave that guy directions. Even though I didn't know the way. Because that's just the kind of guy I am this week. "

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    I haven't read replies but Rick has every right. He consciously or sub consciously knew when he cheated the relationship was over. He should have spared them all the pain back then and not gone back but he did. To avoid further pain, cheating and wasting time Lisa should allow Rick to leave. IF it's meant to be they will end up back together after they've sorted the shot out

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    As wrong as I find Lisa's stance on this and the way she's airing her issues on social media, I do feel a bit sorry for her. It's sad that she is guilt tripping Rick to stay.

    No one should be 'making' someone stay with them if they are truly unhappy. She is clutching at straws. You can't make someone love you.

    Rick will leave, she's just delaying the inevitable.

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    I kind of feel sorry for both of them and neither of them at the same time. She has no right to force him to stay it's all very 'Fatal Attraction' but at the same time I think she feels that being dumped by the man she forgave for cheating is the ultimate insult. He's in a crappy position but he's also not guiltless in this whole situation either.

    What a mess.


 

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