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    My DS attends a weekly early intervention play group, which DH accompanies him to.

    My mum decided to come along on two occasions. She gets very involved, chatting to the educators and asking about the toys and equipment etc. She takes it upon herself to ask about a large wooden stand type thing with a pvc pipe attached to it. It’s a basic toy designed for the children to put plastic balls in and they roll down the tube. We didn't know, but she asked the educator to order one for her.

    DS had a couple of weeks off play group (one week he had a slight sniffle, one week due to poor weather). DH & DS return last week and the educator had the contraption my mum asked her to order, which is $10. DH didn’t end up taking it that day as he didn’t have the $10 cash on him at the time. Yesterday the play group was on and I dropped in for a bit and we gave the $10 to the educator for the item mum ordered. We get given a wooden stand, but the PVC pipe is not included. The pipe will have to be sourced and have holes drilled in it in order for the toy to be of any use.

    So basically, my mum has ordered a large cumbersome toy for my child without running it past DH or I (or even advising us she'd ordered it), with the intention of us having it for him to play with at our house. And we don’t have a drill at home, and we would have to source PVC pipe, all for an item we don’t want or need.

    If you were in this situation, what would you do? Keep the item you don’t want or need? Or give it to Nanna as she ordered it, and let her deal with it?

    May I note that she is aware that I'm reluctant about bringing new toys into the home without putting some thought into it first due to the overwhelming amount of toys we already have in our small house.

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    Give the wooden contraception to Nanna and tell her "I hope you are able to sort out the pipe situation, it's such a lovely idea and would be a shame if it doesn't work out."

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    I would take it to her place and say 'this was delivered to the centre for you, they said you hadn't paid yet so we paid on your behalf' and leave it at that. She can do the rest.

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    Yep toy for nannas house

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    It's not yours. She ordered it, it's hers. You are just the delivery driver. Drop it of at her house and say she can pay you back the 10 bucks when she can.

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    Definitely a toy for your mum's house!

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    Drop it at her house!

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    I just wanted a little reassurance that I wasn't being a bish!

    This is how I handled it:

    I returned to work yesterday after the drop in at play group with the toy and gave it to my dad (who works in the same building as me). I explained that mum had ordered it without my knowledge. My dad seemed p!ssed off that she had ordered the contraption. He gave me the $10 later on that day.

    This morning at work my dad tried to give it back because my mum had said she 'ordered it for us to have'. I explained it was of no use to us, we don't have a drill or pipe, etc. He said he can take it home and he'll just throw it in the bin.

    I think I'll call mum later today regarding what to do with it. Apparently the stand was handmade by a nice old man and even though I don't want it, it seems wasteful to just chuck it out.

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    Maybe ask the coordinator if she could use or another family. You never know

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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    Maybe ask the coordinator if she could use or another family. You never know
    Good idea


 

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