Sd , 15, went out of town on Friday a couple hours away to go drinking with friends. Yes dh allowed it. I was unaware. There's been enough conflict between all of us lately. Dh turns a blind eye to the reality because all he wants is a happy harmonious home.
Fast forward to Sunday when she is supposed to be home, and he has no idea where she is. She then rocks up at 8pm with 2 puppies claiming they are hers and no one is touching them at all. None of it was thought through....ie who will look after them when she's with her mum, or at school etc. or even who will pay for anything for them.and the fact we have a golden retriever already. We tried getting another dog only two months ago but it didn't work out with having two dogs here.
Much arguing occurred. (I'll leave it at that or too long a story)It resulted in myself getting our 3 kids out of bed and going to stay with a friend.
Yesterday sd took her two dogs around town to try see if her friends would want at least one of them. She's had the day off school, and dh is up to his second day off work as he is that depressed. She could only re home one so hasn't been home since and dh has no idea where she is.
He is home again from work as he pretty much having a breakdown. He doesn't want a second dog at all, but wants to say yes to her just so she stays home.
Dh thinks it will teach her responsibility and may stop her going out on weekends. I refuse to look after it while she's at school as I have my own three kids plus I do family day care.i do not think it's fair to teach her responsibility this way, it's not fair on the dog. She proved yesterday she is not capable of making decisions that are good when I read on her fb status that it was a pretty scary moment sitting in her friends car boot while her friend did skids and burnouts.
I've booked an appointment for dh to see a dr about going back on his anti depressants, and am ringing around trying to find a crisis counsellor for he and I to talk with together