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    Default Your opinion... 2 under 2

    Ok, so I am currently 29 weeks pregnant and I have an 18 month old toddler. Currently I work 5 days a week (6 hrs each day), I walk my toddler to day care and back in his stroller and then take public transport to work. I'm totally physically exhausted!

    Do you think that when #2 comes and I'm not working but at home with a toddler & newborn that things will be EASIER or HARDER for me?! Lol. You can guess what answer I'm hoping for of course

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    I had a 14 month gap between my 2 oldest and that was under 2. It was not as hard as I thought it would be and I freaked out over nothing. I am not expecting my 4th

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    My 2 were 21 months apart...I loved it! I actually started doing some work from home when the youngest was 6 weeks old I found it so easy. I would do 2 under 2 again in a heartbeat if I had my time over.
    For me it all got hard with three under four

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    There's 23 months between my first two and it honestly wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. Its still hard though, there's so much juggling between feeding, napping, bathing both but once you get into your own routine it becomes easier. I found it most hard when ds2 went through an extra clingy stage where he was hysterical the second I put him down so I wore him for a bit. I found my hardest days were when the baby wasn't sleeping very well and I had to get out of bed and deal with a toddler on top of no sleep. But watching them together is something that put a smile on my face even when it was ridiculously tough I now have a 3 year old, 13month old and a 5 week old. Its only my first day alone with them but because I haven't left the baby stage I'm hoping I can cope lol

    You will be fine! There are pros and con's to each age gap and so many variables like personalities and your general threshold lol Either way it will be hard but there will also be times where it will be so easy you wonder why you were worried in the first place

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    My first two are 15 months apart... now im having twins due when my oldest is 3 and 2 months.... mad house... but its gonna be ok. Youll be fine. They eventually distract each other which thank goodness my two are doing now so when the twins get here
    .. it should be ok.... bwahahaha

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    I was due to have a 18 mth gap but had a late term loss of that bub, and then fell preg again straight away so ended up with a 26 mth gap.

    I look at how my eldest was when I was due, compared to when DD was born, and I think it would have been much easier with the smaller gap.

    For me DS was much less demanding under 2 and was just generally happy to do whatever you gave him to do. Once he turned 2 he started challenging more and questioning more, whereas previously he just took what I said as 100% the way things were! Trying to manage that with a newborn was tough!!

    Either way, a newborn is a lot of work and your elder child still needs your attention, so I don't think there is a perfect gap!

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    Entirely depends on the personalities of your children. I had a 3.5 year gap first time which was easy peasy, then a 23 month gap which was hell on earth as my 2nd was such a difficult toddler, then a 2.5 year gap which again was easy.

    Too many variables (I know this is light hearted so will say it will hopefully be easier). To be honest I've always found going to work much easier than being at home.

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    Interesting thread. I'm starting to consider TTC #2 now that is DS is 5mo. The fog of the early months is lifting and I'm wondering if I'm mad. The responses here are making me think I'm not so mad after all.

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    22mth gap. It was horrible adjusting. Very needy strog willed toddler and an insomniac bub!
    BUT!.... They got older and it was a bit better.
    they love each others company. They entertain each other.
    its kinda like having twins...

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    I have a 22mth gap. Other than the initial few weeks getting used to a routine it's been easy.

    wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.


 

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